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  1. #1
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    My recent argument with the significant other...

    Her: "Are you going to Dallas for T-day with me?".
    "No, I've got a LOT of work to do. My recent client, the $7.5K job, needs my help fixing something, plus I've got the other guy from Florida chewing me out because I haven't started his project yet".

    "So, you must hate me AND my family".

    ...ARGH!!!!!!

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  3. #2
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    Re: My recent argument with the significant other...

    Either way your screwed. Maybe not.
    Newt

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    Jan 2009
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    Re: My recent argument with the significant other...

    Hang in there.I just became free of emotional turmoil now I am going to work live life and deer hunt and metal detect and hunt artifacts. But I am the last you want advice from. Good luck sir.
    Just try to do the right thing that is all you can do.
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  5. #4
    pg
    my favourite food is witchetty grubs

    Jul 2008
    hound dog
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    Re: My recent argument with the significant other...

    As you are busy now Mike , I'd suggest visiting the in-laws at Xmas when you probably have
    more time.
    That 3 hr drive each way is a chunk outta the weekend(assuming you were having a long one).
    I freed my mind when I left god behind

  6. #5
    Kentucky Kache

    Re: My recent argument with the significant other...

    Women. You can't live with 'em, and you can't live........with 'em.

  7. #6
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    Re: My recent argument with the significant other...

    Ask her if her family loves you enough to take you both in and feed you if you should become homeless. Better yet, tell her adulthood is a scary place but, once she has been there a while, she'll start to understand some things that appear confusing at this point in time. Then, agree to breakup with her, save on buying her a Xmas present, and make up again after the new year. You'll be way ahead financially and your clients win too! Dammit Mike, some folks charge big bucks for advice as sound as this!
    Banking off a Northeast wind, sailin' on a summer breeze

  8. #7
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    Jan 2007
    Ohio
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    Re: My recent argument with the significant other...

    Quote Originally Posted by Kentucky Kache
    Women. You can't live with 'em, and you can't live........with 'em.
    "I've always said Women, you can't live with them, you can't shoot them, and you can't have heterosexual sex without them"


  9. #8
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    Nov 2009
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    Re: My recent argument with the significant other...

    Quote Originally Posted by packerbacker
    Ask her if her family loves you enough to take you both in and feed you if you should become homeless. Better yet, tell her adulthood is a scary place but, once she has been there a while, she'll start to understand some things that appear confusing at this point in time. Then, agree to breakup with her, save on buying her a Xmas present, and make up again after the new year. You'll be way ahead financially and your clients win too! Dammit Mike, some folks charge big bucks for advice as sound as this!
    Awesome post!

    teddy

  10. #9
    us
    "you can't fight with me...you're miniature...you fight like a hamster."

    Nov 2008
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    Re: My recent argument with the significant other...

    and the drama continues! now what mikey?
    today and everyday ...... happy go lucky to be alive

  11. #10

    Feb 2007
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    Re: My recent argument with the significant other...

    When you get to be my age you will come to realize that family is more important than any job that must be done. Never miss a holiday just because there is work to do...it will still be there tomorrow and your family may not be.
    Debby

  12. #11
    us
    Apr 2007
    Missouri
    Whites DFX, AT Garrett Pro
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    Re: My recent argument with the significant other...

    Manipulation + guilt trip Bad medicine for warrior.
    Have detector, Will Travel  
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  13. #12
    BIG61AL

    Re: My recent argument with the significant other...

    sounds like a battle for dominance and I hate to say it but you are likely to lose the fight just to keep the peace.

  14. #13
    us
    Feb 2007
    East Central Florida WP
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    Re: My recent argument with the significant other...

    Quote Originally Posted by packerbacker
    Ask her if her family loves you enough to take you both in and feed you if you should become homeless. Better yet, tell her adulthood is a scary place but, once she has been there a while, she'll start to understand some things that appear confusing at this point in time. Then, agree to breakup with her, save on buying her a Xmas present, and make up again after the new year. You'll be way ahead financially and your clients win too! Dammit Mike, some folks charge big bucks for advice as sound as this!
    He is in enough trouble at the moment....... LOL

    Ray S
    Ray S ECenFL
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  15. #14
    us
    May 2003
    Seattle, Washington
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    Re: My recent argument with the significant other...

    Quote Originally Posted by mikeofaustin
    Her: "Are you going to Dallas for T-day with me?".
    "No, I've got a LOT of work to do. My recent client, the $7.5K job, needs my help fixing something, plus I've got the other guy from Florida chewing me out because I haven't started his project yet".

    "So, you must hate me AND my family".

    ...ARGH!!!!!!
    I would recommend a good divorce lawyer.

    This is not how any good relationship should work.

    Find someone else that doesn't hold your decisions up as guilt trips.
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    Re: My recent argument with the significant other...

    I don't have a significant other, I have a wife. It'll probably work out for you, but if it don't, and divorce rears its ugly head, call me. My ex-wife, plaintiff as I call her, had an excellent lawyer, and money motivates him greatly. I'll hook you up.
    Just like Texas in 1880.

  17. #16
    us
    Nov 2009
    The Mountains of Puerto Rico
    Garrett 150
    89

    Re: My recent argument with the significant other...

    My ex-wife use to hound me about working all the time. It reached a point where she even accused me of having an affair. All the while, I was saving up for the holidays. When Christmas came she opened her gift of diamond earrings and realized how much I loved her. We men work hard and our generosity to our wives is measured by how much we love them. Hopefully, by Christmas she will understand why you do what you have to do.

    Ernest
    I Love Gorditas and Harley Davidsons

  18. #17
    Kentucky Kache

    Re: My recent argument with the significant other...

    Quote Originally Posted by RGINN
    I don't have a significant other, I have a wife.

  19. #18
    us
    "you can't fight with me...you're miniature...you fight like a hamster."

    Nov 2008
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    Re: My recent argument with the significant other...

    Quote Originally Posted by simplemaninpr
    My ex-wife use to hound me about working all the time. It reached a point where she even accused me of having an affair. All the while, I was saving up for the holidays. When Christmas came she opened her gift of diamond earrings and realized how much I loved her. We men work hard and our generosity to our wives is measured by how much we love them. Hopefully, by Christmas she will understand why you do what you have to do.

    Ernest

    did mikey say he was getting "the girl" a gift?
    today and everyday ...... happy go lucky to be alive

  20. #19
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    Jan 2008
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    Re: My recent argument with the significant other...

    Gee, we need a "not for Mike" alternate discussion.

    Mike,

    It sounds like you are self-employed - master of your own time. Why would you schedule a job during Turkey Day? Do you always go to her parents? Are you always home for the holidays? If you do, why is it different this time? If you don't - then the money is an excuse.

    Excuse me, but you could not give me a big enough set of diamonds that would prove you loved me. Diamonds may be a girl's best friend, but they are not what makes her happy. Jewelry doesn't say "I love you", it says "I went to the store and bought you something".

    Do you have kids? Not being there for them makes it worse.

    I've worked many, many holidays, and still managed to spend some time with the family on every one of them (and both sides of the family at that).

    I suspect that you are not doing it for her - you are doing it because you are not good at scheduling your time, and she loses. If you were good with your time, you wouldn't have someone on your back to finish, and someone on your back to start another job. (I'm giving you her probable thoughts).

    I'm also at that age when I realize that we need to live today as if it is your last - because it may be. And loved ones are more important than money or gifts.

    How would you feel if, after the holiday, your family was no longer there? Your answer would be "but its over $7,000. So, you have officially put a monetary value on your family. Obviously, the guy you are doing the job for - he is not going to be with his family either? Or maybe he is - hmmmm. Or maybe, he doesn't have one - double hmmmmmm.


    There, now we have a slightly more balanced discussion.

    B
    "Irony is the rule"

  21. #20
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    DFCA

    Dec 2006
    Kansas
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    Re: My recent argument with the significant other...

    Mike, I feel for you buddy. I'm a contractor, so I know where you're coming from, however, one thing I've learned,
    it doesn't matter how hard you work, the amount of hours you put it, the fact that you did it on your day off or holidays
    the one you're doing the work for doesn't care about your personal life.
    Because the next time he'll say, "well, you did it before" and then you're really screwed.
    JMO, MAKE the time to spend it with family, it'll pay you back in more ways than you can put in a bank account.

    Sniffer

 

 
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