Aggresive Drivers

[AU24K]

As I was leaving a local business this afternoon, some joker FLEW into the parking space next to me.
I casually said out of my window, "You need to slow down."

Well, he jumped out of his truck and asked if I had a problem with him.
I replied, "No, but you need to slow down. This is a parking lot, not Talledega."

He came closer to me in a threatening manner and told me to shut the ---- up and mind my own business. I politely said that as a patron in the area it WAS my business.
As he came closer, I feared that I might have to kick someone's a**.... He was all mouth, which would have provided a large target for my fist.
Eventually, he backed down and walked away.

Why are some mouth-breathers so uptight?

I do not condone fighting nor confrontations but will take any sorry a** punk to school if needed.

In fact, I had just left the Post Office and had opened the door for an elderly lady....

What the Hell is wrong with my fellow Americans?

Best,
Scott

 

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[Ammonhotep]

Keep your eye on the doughnut, not on the hole!

Who knows, maybe he was having a rough day, or something's going on in his life. In public the deep pains people feel are rarely seen for what they are. Give him the benefit of the doubt, I'm sure we could all use it from time to time.

-Ammo

 

[AU24K]

I gave him plenty of opportunity to rectify the situation, but he walked away still in an agressive manner, spewing obscenities.

I appreciate your perspective and acknowledged the possibility of the situation that you describe, but, alas, it was not as you would like to give him credit for.

My impression was that he was a "big" man (6 ft. plus, over 200 pounds) and he was used to getting his way....


Best,
Scott

 

[Ammonhotep]

"What can you ever really know of other people's souls - of their temptations, their opportunities, their struggles? One soul in the whole creation you do know: and it is the only one whose fate is placed in your hands."

-C. S. Lewis

:-)

 

[FarmerChick]

I kinda agree with Ammon.

while these things are seen by you, did you HAVE to say something. you don't know the circumstances. maybe his wife just left him and he drove kinda fast into the lot cause he was ticked. maybe someone in his family took a turn for the worse and is dying and he is frustrated and drove in kinda fast.

there are many reasons people do a few small things that they really should not. and then someone calls them on it. AT A bad time.

what is wrong with people? too many get into too many people's business. don't mind their own when it comes to small situations. small situations can just be let by and then there are no bigger problems or a fight that would have created.


yea the little things people do we see can sometimes suck, but you don't have to comment on them either to escalate them.

 

[airborne1092]

I have to go with AU24K on this one. My grandmother always used to say, "When you meet someone, smile. They may be having a worse day than you."

There was no best way to approch this guy, because you didn't in fact know what was going on with him. On the other hand, he didn't have to act like a Richard, and want to get all up in your face for saying something. If they guy had any class at all, he would have thought about what you were asking him to do, and seen that you were the one in the right.

God forbid, he came into the parking lot and injured or killed someone, esp. a kid, - esp. MY kid - his day would have gone from bad to worse faster than you could squeal, "truck-nutz!"

 

[spartacus53]

While Ammonhotep does have a valid point, there are others who aside from poor driving habits are just plainly inconsiderate. Sometimes choosing between the 2 is difficult.

I would also think it has much to do with our own feelings for any particular situation. Some things just rub you the wrong way no matter how good, or bad your day is going

We all have our pet peeves and my list is growing every day. Fortunately, I'm the type to mete out response in a measured reply. I'm never at a loss to get revenge if needed, and no one would be the wiser either.

Yup, that's the way a truly evil mind works when need-be

 

[FarmerChick]

I gave him plenty of opportunity to rectify the situation, but he walked away still in an agressive manner, spewing obscenities.

see I don't think he 'owed you' anything. an explanation or nothing. you asked, you got jumped on. He doesn't have to answer you JUST because you spoke. while what he did is not cool, what you did just starts something.

 

[SC_hunter]

Au...You have to remember that no likes being told they are wrong or challenged. It has been my work for over 35 years...and even when a police officer says you are wrong, there is an inclination to become combative or the least, mumble under your breath about how he doesn't know what he is talking about. These are not the days of Andy Griffith and the town of Mayberry. Sometimes the best thing to say is...."Nuffin at all". Just my thoughts. Life is too short to worry about things that you can't control and you can't control another person....

 

[Chadeaux]

Keep your eye on the doughnut, not on the hole!

Who knows, maybe he was having a rough day, or something's going on in his life. In public the deep pains people feel are rarely seen for what they are. Give him the benefit of the doubt, I'm sure we could all use it from time to time.

-Ammo

Just curious, after reading the OP . . . We are accountable and must remember the possibility that this person has had a bad day?

Why shouldn't he have to be accountable to behave safely or courteously in public?

The problem is that everyone wants us to be forgiving ( and forgiveness is important ) but at some point bad behavior MUST OF NECESSITY become UNACCEPTABLE.

Since it is evident that their parents and teachers never got through to them, it begs the question: If those persons behaving badly, endangering others, being unreasonable, and uncivilized are never told that they are doing wrong, how will they ever change? Maybe they are just too stupid to figure it out on their own.

 

[diggummup]

AU- I would (and have) have done the same thing. I think an off-duty cop MAY have done (at least) the same thing, an on-duty cop WOULD have taken it a step further, guaranteed. Driving is a privilege not a right. I'm sure most of us have done stupid things behind the wheel before, however there is no excuse for aggresive driving, in a parking lot of all places. God forbid a small child would have been standing there as he FLEW into the parking space. The guy was obviously a hot-headed blowhard, a typical example of self absorbed egoism, with no regard for anything or anyone else around him, bad day or not. No bleeding heart Freudian excuses for this guy.

 

[FarmerChick]

Just curious, after reading the OP . . . We are accountable and must remember the possibility that this person has had a bad day?

The problem is that everyone wants us to be forgiving ( and forgiveness is important ) but at some point bad behavior MUST OF NECESSITY become UNACCEPTABLE.

Since it is evident that their parents and teachers never got through to them, it begs the question: If those persons behaving badly, endangering others, being unreasonable, and uncivilized are never told that they are doing wrong, how will they ever change? Maybe they are just too stupid to figure it out on their own.

I bet you have done things in public that another has found annoying or out of line? Are you perfect?

There isn't a person on this board or anywhere that hasn't done 'something'....and if ya say ya didn't, then you are fibbing

no one can be houlier than thou every day. no one

cutting some slack and staying out of a minor incident JUST because it got your fur up is the exact reason you will get the snot kicked out of you one day.

 

[Kentucky Kache]

cutting some slack and staying out of a minor incident JUST because it got your fur up is the exact reason you will get the snot kicked out of you one day.

Which is exactly why AU didn't get out of his car.

 

[Jason in Enid]

Too many people in this world suffer from a serious lack of manners or consideration for others. The main reason for this is because we have become a "hands off" society where everything is acceptable and nobody dares to stand up for themselves when other try to walk over them. I applaud 24K. I have done very similar things. I've had kids racing up and down my residential street in the past. I have no problem walking out into the middle of the road and giving them a piece of my mind. I have also escorted kids back to thier parents so I could meet them face to face and explain what thier kids were doing.

 

[FarmerChick]

there is stepping into a situation that truly needs attention and then there is butting in where one should mind their own business. the situation is what warrents the action. small infractions, everyone commits, let them slide.

a person can't take a crap nowadays without someone making a comment. I tell ya some privacy in this world is required. leave people alone if the 'so called crime' is small, such as manners. at some point ya gotta let people live a little and do their own thing without fur flying for no good darn reason.

 

[dustytrails123]

I think it went both ways back then in the old days...would you yell at billy the kid for riding his horse too fast in a parking lot..lol but i agree the younger nation have some learning to do....i went to the store yesterday and the 19 year old new cashier couldnt even count out 57 cents change without the assistant telling her it was 2 quarters a nickel and 2 pennies i guess the till saying 57 cents change was too hard to figure out

 

[Chadeaux]

I bet you have done things in public that another has found annoying or out of line? Are you perfect?

There isn't a person on this board or anywhere that hasn't done 'something'....and if ya say ya didn't, then you are fibbing

no one can be houlier than thou every day. no one

cutting some slack and staying out of a minor incident JUST because it got your fur up is the exact reason you will get the snot kicked out of you one day.

Never said I was perfect, and I have folks standing in line every day wanting to tell me how imperfect I am.

That being said, I don't excuse MY stupid behavior when it occurs. That "holier than thou" attitude you mention is not part of my personality, and if you knew me, well, you'd know that.

So, when it's your life or your child's life that is endangered, let me know how that "holier than thou" attitude of yours is working out (I know you aren't really that way, just a friendly poke in the ribs).

Forgiveness is great, but behaving responsibly and UNSELFISHLY is even better. RESPECTING the live, liberty and happiness of others is a great deal better than being able to kick the butt of someone who your foolishness endangers --- or GOD forbid --- injures or kills.

 

[Chadeaux]

there is stepping into a situation that truly needs attention and then there is butting in where one should mind their own business. the situation is what warrents the action. small infractions, everyone commits, let them slide.

a person can't take a crap nowadays without someone making a comment. I tell ya some privacy in this world is required. leave people alone if the 'so called crime' is small, such as manners. at some point ya gotta let people live a little and do their own thing without fur flying for no good darn reason.

Manners are what make society "civilized". How would you feel if AU had wrote about being in the hospital because some jerk in a fit of rage and unsafe driving slammed into the driver's door of his car while he was parked?

What is really weird is a woman saying manners aren't important. That sounds like something from the twilight zone.

 

[Kentucky Kache]

The main reason for this is because we have become a "hands off" society where everything is acceptable and nobody dares to stand up for themselves when other try to walk over them.

But in this case no one stood up. They kicked butt from their car seat. Far less perilous that way.

 

[FarmerChick]

Never said I was perfect, and I have folks standing in line every day wanting to tell me how imperfect I am.

That being said, I don't excuse MY stupid behavior when it occurs. That "holier than thou" attitude you mention is not part of my personality, and if you knew me, well, you'd know that.

So, when it's your life or your child's life that is endangered, let me know how that "holier than thou" attitude of yours is working out (I know you aren't really that way, just a friendly poke in the ribs).

Forgiveness is great, but behaving responsibly and UNSELFISHLY is even better. RESPECTING the live, liberty and happiness of others is a great deal better than being able to kick the butt of someone who your foolishness endangers --- or GOD forbid --- injures or kills.

every person in the world has a bad day and does something stupid at one point in time. sometimes the other can keep a closed mouth and just let it happen. allow people their space without commenting constantly.

not every single situation is a life and death issue obviously yet many can throw the 'what if' into it all the time and make it justifiable to butt into someone elses life at a flash.

just how I see it