This isn't meant to be a religious post and not being a Charter member, I don't have access to the Religion board so I would deeply appreciate if this could be left here, cuz I'd like some advice.
My close friend of 25 years has known no religion her entire life. I once brought up some examples of my beliefs and her reaction was similar to someone being told a fairy tale. So I never brought it up again and it was never an issue from that point on. I have my beliefs, she chooses to live life without. To each their own.
As we age we are both facing the deaths of loved ones. I lost my father in 2008 and she faces losing a dear uncle soon (he's in hospice). In my case, my faith got me through the worst of it but I worry that my friend doesn't have that source of strength and will take these losses much harder.
What can I say to help her relieve the pain she's bound to experience? "He's in God's hands" won't register with her, nor something as simple as "He's in a better place now." I thought of "He's out of pain" and stressing good memories, but that'll only go so far.
Any ideas?
My close friend of 25 years has known no religion her entire life. I once brought up some examples of my beliefs and her reaction was similar to someone being told a fairy tale. So I never brought it up again and it was never an issue from that point on. I have my beliefs, she chooses to live life without. To each their own.
As we age we are both facing the deaths of loved ones. I lost my father in 2008 and she faces losing a dear uncle soon (he's in hospice). In my case, my faith got me through the worst of it but I worry that my friend doesn't have that source of strength and will take these losses much harder.
What can I say to help her relieve the pain she's bound to experience? "He's in God's hands" won't register with her, nor something as simple as "He's in a better place now." I thought of "He's out of pain" and stressing good memories, but that'll only go so far.
Any ideas?