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That almost sounds like a good idea, until you realize that you have no idea of the persons intent to begin with.
But...Did she know your intent? Did she read you like a book?
There is a difference between chivalry , being socially polite , and looking like a dog under a buffet table....
While heeding my advice not to heed my advice , act disinterested and slouch without trying to make eye contact next time. As if it's boring drudgery.
Brighten if you get a positive response , but don't be that dog....
A gal stopped for me yesterday near an automatic door obviously being polite by yielding to the crutches and I said , go ahead. She said ,"Oh" , and entered. No , I did not study her behind as I followed. Or try to figure anything out about the brief near contention of courtesy in which ladies go first where possible..
We get lots of door holders around here.
Kind , considerate folks that would probably push us through a green traffic light if we dallied , but nice at the door.
When I'm alone ,or if someone is more feeble than I , I'll pull a second door and stop it with a crutch and wave some one through if they held a first door for me.
Stand offs (no, you go . No ,you go..) are a good time.
While disabled should be asked if they need help , it is common for folks to jump in and grab a door. It is best to be appreciative and thank them kindly.
I tend to tell some folks to let me fight it , but in trying to let them be well meaning more often just be nice. (I'm a slow learner sometimes.)
Door wars. Good fun.
When a second set of doors exist , so do creative options for holding them for folks kind enough to hold the first.
(Even if only one set of doors exist the following can apply too.)
Even if I (you) lose.
Anyone behind inside due to holding a door must get to get in line ahead of you/go on about why they are there first. (No , you go. We're inside now. l.o.l..)
That way they don't lose (miss out on the last ice cream ,or place in line) out because they simply held a door as a polite gesture.
(So , if you hold a door for a gal , does she wait for you to proceed after? Or does ladies first still apply? L.o.l. Test tomorrow. Or next time you go to town.)
But... Senior type elderly can / and often should be be granted a frontal position , due to other etiquette aside from door wars results...
There is the potential for who goes first wars with the elderly , but that's o.k..Everyone is out of the weather anyways.
Threats of arm wrestling for position can resolve most contests. (Except with Uncle Bill. Just cut ahead of him.)
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