mastereagle22
Silver Member
- May 15, 2007
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- Detector(s) used
- E-trac, Explorer II, Xterra30, Whites Prizm IV
Ok so why am I posting this on the forum?
Because my wife feels that I have made her out to be the "bad guy" in one too many posts here on the forum. And because I think it is the right thing to do.
It is all too easy to dismiss other people's feelings when you are focused on your own. When your needs and wants over rule even the most basic common sense taught to you from when you were a young child.
I have an addiction and it is detecting. I find myself out hunting for the next "good" target, pushing myself for just three more signals hoping that the next one will be made of some precious metal, or be rare and be worth something to me and others. Why? I guess self-esteem is one reason. A desire to be liked and looked upon as a "good detectorist" here on the forum. Competition with my buddy I hunt with. It is the recognition of someone saying, "Wow that is a good find, I wish I had found it."
A driving need to find lost items and treasure so that some day I can look back and say wow I have some cool stuff, but not being able to walk away when it is time. Staying those few extra minutes in the hopes of good find that most of the time, never comes.
So for all the times I stayed out too late, all the times I didn't answer the cell phone because I had a good signal, all the times I snuck out a few extra hours in the week to hunt, I want to say I am sorry to you. Raising kids and running a house is hard work and you do an awesome job of it! I don't say thank you enough.
All I can say in closing is that I am truly sorry for anything mean I have done or said over the last two years when discussing detecting and the time I spend on the hobby. I will try harder in the future but remember I am only a little boy inside and a grown up on the outside and not perfect in any way.
This post will not erase any of the slights you feel you may have suffered from my posts here on the forum but at least you know that I care about your feelings, care about the fact that you don't like the way I have portrayed you, and that you feel you have been treated unfairly.
And about Saturday night, I should have stopped detecting and come home. That was REALLY stupid of me!!!! I feel very bad about it and wish I had a do-over on that one. A Saturday without the kids is a rarity. Any night without the kids when we could spend time together is even more rare! I am an idiot!
I am sorry, and I love you.
Larry
Because my wife feels that I have made her out to be the "bad guy" in one too many posts here on the forum. And because I think it is the right thing to do.
It is all too easy to dismiss other people's feelings when you are focused on your own. When your needs and wants over rule even the most basic common sense taught to you from when you were a young child.
I have an addiction and it is detecting. I find myself out hunting for the next "good" target, pushing myself for just three more signals hoping that the next one will be made of some precious metal, or be rare and be worth something to me and others. Why? I guess self-esteem is one reason. A desire to be liked and looked upon as a "good detectorist" here on the forum. Competition with my buddy I hunt with. It is the recognition of someone saying, "Wow that is a good find, I wish I had found it."
A driving need to find lost items and treasure so that some day I can look back and say wow I have some cool stuff, but not being able to walk away when it is time. Staying those few extra minutes in the hopes of good find that most of the time, never comes.
So for all the times I stayed out too late, all the times I didn't answer the cell phone because I had a good signal, all the times I snuck out a few extra hours in the week to hunt, I want to say I am sorry to you. Raising kids and running a house is hard work and you do an awesome job of it! I don't say thank you enough.
All I can say in closing is that I am truly sorry for anything mean I have done or said over the last two years when discussing detecting and the time I spend on the hobby. I will try harder in the future but remember I am only a little boy inside and a grown up on the outside and not perfect in any way.
This post will not erase any of the slights you feel you may have suffered from my posts here on the forum but at least you know that I care about your feelings, care about the fact that you don't like the way I have portrayed you, and that you feel you have been treated unfairly.
And about Saturday night, I should have stopped detecting and come home. That was REALLY stupid of me!!!! I feel very bad about it and wish I had a do-over on that one. A Saturday without the kids is a rarity. Any night without the kids when we could spend time together is even more rare! I am an idiot!
I am sorry, and I love you.
Larry
Good "How to " for a marraige.
Okay...maybe we DO need to send in troops for that one! lol My point is that we knew it took nothing away from how you feel about her in your heart anymore than we think you despise that jerk you hunt with that steals all the good finds! Give her huge hugs and tell her I am feeling bad for joking about it since it must have bothered her but also that none of us, you included meant any harm either. SORRY MRS ME22!!!
