Dating sucks.

[Detecto]

Be glad if you are married or not trying to find a woman.

I will be 25 years old soon, and have been single for about 4 months now.

I cannot even comprehend what dating has turned into.

I could write an entire novel on it, but I will sum things up...

1. Social media, and online dating sites, have made men ubiquitous.

Up until 20-25 years ago, most people dated within their town, that is no longer the case.

2. This "abundance" of men have turned women extremely picky.

I can't even call it dating anymore, I'm not even sure there is a word for it in the dictionary.

But girls have huge expectations for you anymore. Highly illogical and unreasonable expectations.

Any fault you have, whether it's a cosmetic issue, money issue, car doesn't cost over $60k issue, etc etc etc.

Does not get overlooked anymore. Because us men are simply one card out of a 10,000 card Rolodex.

You can simply read a lot of online dating profiles to find out the issue:

"I'm looking for Mr. Perfect"

Except to these women, there is no Mr. Perfect, he does not exist. It's Goldilocks and the three bears all over again.

Some of these women have been single for months, even years.

They cannot commit anymore, because all they think anymore is "he's nice, but can I do better?"

I might be 30 before I find someone.

If you don't believe me...there are now articles with evidence that suggests...

..that many women between 20 and 35 will end up dying alone!

That's right! So picky they will go through men like crap through a tin horn, until they die.

Disturbing..

 

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[Simon1]

Kinda like that show "Housewives" of some county. They believe they are exceptional, smart, and good looking. I have yet to see one that would be a "Trophy" wife yet alone someone I would admit being married to. They have all these "High" standards, yet can't recognize how faulty they, themselves, are. "Mr. Perfect" is the guy who will never be home to see who it is they really married. Women looking for "Mr. Perfect" are gold diggers. Men would like a Miss Perfect, but we know they are few are far between so we settle for those with "cute" imperfections because " we are not perfect".

 

[Truth]

I just kissed my wife [emoji105]


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[Detecto]

Kinda like that show "Housewives" of some county. They believe they are exceptional, smart, and good looking. I have yet to see one that would be a "Trophy" wife yet alone someone I would admit being married to. They have all these "High" standards, yet can't recognize how faulty they, themselves, are. "Mr. Perfect" is the guy who will never be home to see who it is they really married. Women looking for "Mr. Perfect" are gold diggers. Men would like a Miss Perfect, but we know they are few are far between so we settle for those with "cute" imperfections because " we are not perfect".

Agreed, and I've chatted with some foreign women, they actually act like how American women should act like.

Not saying all American women are like that, and it could be a regional thing.

 

[RustyGold]

I just kissed my wife

Me too!

 

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Me too...... Then she asked, " know what did you do?"

HH, RN

 

[dts52]

I'm one very lucky fella to be married to my wonderful wife. Good luck in your search and always remember that there are honest, sincere women out there along with the gold diggers. Be patient and love will find you once you stop looking so hard. Enjoy the perks of being single while you have them... you'll miss them someday.
HH
dts

 

[1320]

Don't feel bad, I'm 50 and still looking!

 

[Treasure_Hunter]

3cylbill, please keep political comments out of forums, thanks....

 

[Tpmetal]

haha right I'm 30 and and after my last 3 relationships I have pretty much just quit looking. I know the good ones are out there, but seems like I just attract crazy leeches haha.

 

[s1222l]

I found my match (at age 45 after several attempts) when I gave up and stopped looking.

 

[Treasure_Hunter]

Evidently some are refusing to follow rules after warnings...

 

[Deft Tones]

You sound slightly desperate for a good relationship. The secret is to not try to find a relationship - just try to make friends with your interest.

Some shopping is better done offline. For some people it's harder to say no when you're face to face.

No does not always mean no. Sometimes it means, no, not right now.

Dating is a numbers game. Ask any woman you are attracted to out for a date, point blank. 10 asks per day and only one says, "Sure"!, means you'll have at least 5 dates with women you are attracted to by the weekend - create your own buffet, son!

Laughing = Laid Make them laugh... but not laughing at you.

If you lack confidence, act! Compensate by acting overconfident and cocky for awhile. You'll eventually find the correct balance.

Many pointers can be given but this is a good basic start.

I could (and have several times before marriage) take his methods and leave the bars with a woman under each arm by closing time....20 years ago.

Put yourself in control. You're the man - play the part!

Best of luck....actually you won't need luck if you practice the basic advice.

 

[adamBomb]

A few things I have noticed now that I am 38 yrs old... When you are in your lower/mid 20s girls are not interested in you for the most part. Why? You are not established. No college girl wants a 24 yr old because you are 'too old' and girls your age or older wanted an established 30 something yr old. Think of it this way, you are like a college/high school freshmen. When you start moving up in your career, making better money, etc. it will be much easier to find a 25 yr old single girl. Heck, if I were you I would focus on my career, do well, and the girls will come to you. Serious girls want to picture you being able to buy them a house, take care of them, etc.

 

[AlienLifeForm]

They are expensive in the long run. You may want to consider a rental.

 

[devldog]

Women regardless of age looking for Mr. Perfect will most likely die alone and single, for there is No Mr. Perfect. On the same note, there is No Miss Perfect neither. There is only one Perfect, and they do not reside here on earth.

 

[Bum Luck]

Any "ladies" that think like that are actually ripe for exploitation by guys like Deft Tones' buddy. Unless you're into that game, forget them. You could practice on them, but it won't actually do you much good, and may harm your chances with real women. It's actually a dead end.

That said, be yourself. Oh, you can improve your social skills and bathe more often, but you are the best at being you. Remember, you're looking for compatibility, not a trophy that will find someone better for her when she finds out you're not who you tell her you are.

Don't expect results in a week. It ain't gonna happen.

Meanwhile, join some organizations that do things for other people. Giving is always a good perspective.

Relax.

 

[Treasure_Hunter]

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[Deft Tones]

Posts edited. Reminder we are a family friendly forum, please remember this.

I thought it a clever double endendre... shucks!

Sorry.