I think 70% of the time this hobby is not rosy, if you are out there doing it just for the shake of not finding any valuable relics but just too hunt & have a good time with friends or yourself then you would have a blast either way but when it comes too finding valuable artifacts or taking MDing a step further than just a hobby
What you're describing is what I've dealt with all of my life and am glad beyond words that I am now on the outside looking in. For lack of better words, you are describing what is known as "the rat race". Everyone trying to get a one-up on all the others so they can be the top rat. The one with the most. The most money, value, recognition.
I know it's not an exact comparison but if anyone is in this "hobby" as a professional and needs the money to pay bills. Well, that's a different colored horse. Like any "job", one needs to be sure of a payday. As I said, I'm glad I'm out of that end.
Although I'm not out there for riches nor acclaim, this thing we do is more than a "hobby" to me. It is a lifestyle. The research, the gathering permissions, keeping equipment up and running AND the hunting are all part of what makes up my life nowadays. Not to mention the work in cleaning/preserving/identifying and creating posts to share the "fun" with my friends here.
No, it's not just a hobby, it's a passion. If I needed to do it for a living, I'd drop it in a New York second. (In fact, I did. But, that's another story for another time.)
I completely understand your getting frustrated enough to throw away those annoying rivets, especially when you were trying sooooooo hard to find something "good". Kind of feels like being mad at the target for not being what we want it to be.

This entire hobby is, in a word, frustrating!!! It's how we deal with that frustration that makes or breaks our mood. I've learned that if I'm getting upset while hunting, for whatever reason, it's better for me to quit for the day then to put my knife through the middle of that 20 dollar gold piece.
This is not just directed at you H.S.D. but rather to try and put this whole "hobby" in perspective to those who are frustrated. The hobby itself turns on the feeling, don't expect it to ever go completely away.
Best of luck in all your future searches.
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