Sounds like he's got a good Dad, too!
Shortly after I got out of the service, I had moved back home for a time while looking for work. During that time, my "former" sister came to stay with her (then) 2 young sons. Both of the boys were totally out of control, and the only way they knew how to get attention was by being bad and having their Mommy or Daddy yell at them. I worked with the older boy for a while, helping him with his homework. He was a bright kid(!!), but virtually zero attention span. First time we sat down together, he started off with math problems. He got the first one perfectly. Then got almost through the 2nd - so close that I
knew he understood the rest! After 5 minutes, he conveniently couldn't even write his name. The kid got some sort of smirk on his face like, "
Ok, now uncle kcm is gonna give me some REAL attention". Just the opposite; I got up and started to leave. The boy asked where I was going. I told him look, when you give up and stop trying, I give up and stop trying. Within 2 weeks the boy's attention span went from less than 5 minutes to well over an hour! His grades shot up to the top of the class. ...And I never "GAVE" him one, single answer. Made him figure them out himself!
Sadly, after only 2 weeks, the anti-Mommy took the boys back to the anti-Daddy. Once again, all the attention he could get was when he acted up. Kills me to know how he turned out as well. He's a smart man, but his priorities started off horribly wrong! He made far too many stupid mistakes. He seems to be getting his life in order now, but can't help but wonder how far he would have gone if.....
Also sadly, I've never had kids. Not too sure I'd want to raise them in this world of today, so am thankful I don't. However, talking about you and your son, and then thinking about my nephew really open up a big empty that I normally don't realize is there.
As much as everyone talks about documenting your MD finds, documenting this, documenting that, the only thing you ABSOLUTELY MUST document is now. Now, and all the infinite now's of the future. Life is cruel and bad things can happen at any time. Make certain to document all you can, just in case. ...I knew one guy that went so far as to hire a professional photographer to discreetly follow him and his family around on vacation. The following year something happened...can't remember what or to whom, but one of them was no more. The rest of the family had literally thousands of photos of that one vacation, in addition to what he had done. This happened long before the advent of digital cameras. One simple thing to do is to put up security cameras around your home, and make sure some of them happen to cover areas where you, your wife, and/or your son happen to do things together. After a while you practically forget the cameras are there, but the memories will be caught. THOSE are real treasures! Might even consider having 2 systems - one for security and another for the memories. Is a small price to pay for all the good times you'll be able to save and replay over and over and over.