I read this post...and have been following it, but have refrained from commenting... until now.
I have a skewed, and somewhat cynical view on marriage sometimes, even though I've been married for over 8 years myself. My view comes from the fact that I am an attorney with a fairly large percentage of my business coming from family court and divorce.
Leon... glad to hear everything worked out.
Nightstalker... i want to amend something you said. A marriage is NOT 50/50. It is 100/100. I understand the rationale behind the "50/50". It means that both parties need to give equally.I agree with bigcypress... if you think of only yourself, you will be with only yourself. Marriage is a full commitment.
To all those who are contemplating marriage, or who are married already, go get the book "The Divorce Lawyers Guide to Staying Married", by Wendy Jaffe. It clarified and put into words just about all reasons for divorce that i've come across so far... and more importantly, gives some really sound advice on how to avoid them
steve