Friendly MDers?

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I've been detecting for about 5 years, mostly on beaches. In that time I've met about a dozen detectorists on beaches that I hunt. No matter how friendly I try to be, I always get the impression that I'm infringing on someone else's territory. Even if I was there first. Most times they're polite but not overly friendly. I don't know what I could find short of a gold stash that I wouldn't be just as delighted to have a fellow detectorists find and share the story. Yet the club I belong to seems to have great folks (while at the meetings). Wish folks would realize that the most wealth we will come away with is the friends we make.
 

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Some have limited time and just don't like to be disturbed and just want to hunt.....It isn't that they are unfriendly.......
WELL when you give them a head nod hello and they sneer - they pretty much are unfriendly
Ive had guys be far away and then head right for me and detect directly in front of me or all around me to drive me away
I mean they can be 100 or 50 yrds away and come within 6 feet of me and start gridding so I got no place to go
I got out and went down to where he was - and he came all the way down and did it again - when I said "whats your problem?"
he said this is his spot and he was here first - I almost stepped on his lower rod
 

Same with me...... ill talk, but once in the water im on a mission and dont like to stay in one spot long.
 

I nod and would talk, but sometimes the drive to the beach is 2 hours and don't have a lot of time. I like to say hi and ask how their hunt is but don't want to get drawn into a long conversation. There are times its OK but I'm there to hunt. Can go to a club or group hunt and talk.
I'm not a big talker, like to listen and hear stories but some people can really talk (I like the one above said "chatty Kathy") just don't know who it will be.
Years ago I was hitting South Bch Fla. - I was wearing one of my Casper sweatshirts in the water and one guy sees me and asks if Im the Casper from the forums (this was before I joined TNET) - I said yea - he waved to someone he knew down the beach and yelled - "hey..this is Casper" - so that guy comes down and we talk and then 2 other guys way down see us talking and they head down and they kind of know the other 2 but they see my shirt and say "Hey!"
I know you. and they all start asking questions about where I go when Im down there and how I do this and what do I do about that and we ended up shootin shite for a couple hrs - so I know how distracting talkin treasure can be - I think when we split - 2 of them ran into another 2 just coming and sent them my way too. One guy I met about 10 yrs ago - that lives in Ft Laud. - Im still friends with and he introduced me to Sonny that post here now and then along with a few others nice guy hunters - you take the good you take the bad ...the facts of life ..right :thumbsup:
 

WELL when you give them a head nod hello and they sneer - they pretty much are unfriendly
Ive had guys be far away and then head right for me and detect directly in front of me or all around me to drive me away
I mean they can be 100 or 50 yrds away and come within 6 feet of me and start gridding so I got no place to go
I got out and went down to where he was - and he came all the way down and did it again - when I said "whats your problem?"
he said this is his spot and he was here first - I almost stepped on his lower rod

Time to fire the musket balls! kidding
 

I ran into a few guys when I was detecting a south west florida beach... my buddy and I had gotten then very early before anyone and hit the dry sand and started working the water. We saw the first guy water hunting clearly a local and we were sure to keep our distance out of respect and headed the other direction. Eventually when we were working back towards him and him to us we crossed paths nodded and started chatting. He was a super nice guy, and we exchanged stories about finds for the day. He pulled out a very nice gold band he had just found and we congratulated him on his find. I was laughing because he found it about 10' outside the area I was working... an area I set for myself to give him his space.

Then we ran into an older couple who have been detecting for about 30 years. Husband and wife team, some real pros who travel the world to hunt. These two will chat your ear off and everything they say is a gold nugget of wisdom. If you are FL hunter you probably know who they are. Eventually I insisted that while I will gladly listen to their stories as long as they will tell them, we should break it up so they could enjoy their hunt together and I thanked them deeply for the great conversation and metal detecting advice. I learned more in 15 minutes from these two than I had learned from many of the books I'd read. If there is a list of ambassadors to the hobby of detecting this couple is on that list.

I figure the people who are angry just aren't very good at detecting. Perhaps they spent $2000 on a machine and equipment they don't know how to use effectively.

If they were successful at hunting they would have no reason to be angry.
 

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I ran into a few guys when I was detecting a south west florida beach... my buddy and I had gotten then very early before anyone and hit the dry sand and started working the water. We saw the first guy water hunting clearly a local and we were sure to keep our distance out of respect and headed the other direction. Eventually when we were working back towards him and him to us we crossed paths nodded and started chatting. He was a super nice guy, and we exchanged stories about finds for the day. He pulled out a very nice gold band he had just found and we congratulated him on his find. I was laughing because he found it about 10' outside the area I was working... an area I set for myself to give him his space.

Then we ran into an older couple who have been detecting for about 30 years. Husband and wife team, some real pros who travel the world to hunt. These two will chat your ear off and everything they say is a gold nugget of wisdom. If you are FL hunter you probably know who they are. Eventually I insisted that while I will gladly listen to their stories as long as they will tell them, we should break it up so they could enjoy their hunt together and I thanked them deeply for the great conversation and metal detecting advice. I learned more in 15 minutes from these two than I had learned from many of the books I'd read. If there is a list of ambassadors to the hobby of detecting this couple is on that list.

I figure the people who are angry just aren't very good at detecting. Perhaps they spent $2000 on a machine and equipment they don't know how to use effectively.

If they were successful at hunting they would have no reason to be angry.

I ran into a guy like end of your quote - bout 10 yrs ago - I was winter hunting at a CT. saltwater bch
I got in before low tide and saw a guy fiddling with his Excal bout 100 yrds to my right
I jumped in and ended up in a small winter washout - I found a 1929 class ring within a few minutes - I looked it over and was excited I got gold early-
guy down the beach sees me examining it and starts heading my way - bout 6 feet away I get a small gold coin ring - another oldie
I see him getting closer and slip It in my pouch . I don't get far and he is in my back pocket - and then holds his machine out to me
and says "I cant get this to work properly" - no Hi or hello - mean while I have to stop cause he is driving my PI crazy - I told him nicely - that his was driving mine nuts - he didn't care and he pretty much demanded I help him - I finally told him
"That's a Minelab ..I use a Whites...I cant help you" - He kept holding it out to me saying "well I see your finding stuff..so you must be good at this"
I said, "I been doing this for quite some time and I have lot of friends that have that machine but Ive never used one myself and its not the same as what I have" He pouted and started to work away from me ... I finally can hear my machine again - 6 feet away from the last one ...another class ring - think it was from the 60s
I cant believe the spot Im in ...slip it in my pouch and turn and he is in my back pocket again and *****ing to me that he cant get it to work - I told him "maybe you need to go to the guy you bought it from and have him teach you how to use it." He again lifts it towards me and tells me to give it a try
meanwhile I getting tons of feed back from mine arguing with his machine
I told him I was not going to do that -" its a new machine - and Im not gonna risk breaking it ". So he drops his coil right next to me and starts swinging - Im
like wtf ..and tell him "your raising hell with my machine ...you cant be that close to me." He shrugged and continued to work right around me - I had to move away ...I found some older coins here and there away from him - looked back hoping he would leave that spot ..tide was already coming in and I would not be able to get in there soon ...1/2 hr later he gives up, I raced over ...I got a 750 gold religious medal but tide pushed me out - who knows what else was in there - went back next day but over night it had filled in ---I'll help any one when I can - I helped 3 different new dry sand hunters this year that had probs - but they had simple low level land machines but this guy was kind of a jerk - and even though I was having a good day - he kinda of ruined it (not that Im greedy but I ended up actually hunting like 1 1/2 hrs when I should have been able to hunt for 3 hrs and Im giving the short version of the day- never remember running into him again - so maybe he gave it up
 

I love meeting fellow detectorists any where what hate is when people stare at you like your there for their intertainment!
 

I ran into a guy like end of your quote - bout 10 yrs ago - I was winter hunting at a CT. saltwater bch
I got in before low tide and saw a guy fiddling with his Excal bout 100 yrds to my right says "I cant get this to work properly" - no Hi or hello -

oh BROTHER.. sounds like he wouldn't last long in this hobby anyway.. one or two days blindly hunting a sanded in beach and he'll have the machine up for sale.
 

I can see when you are rushed for time and have a chatty kathy coming towards you but no reason to be rude.

Depends on what "chatty Cathy" looks like and what she's wearing! Sometimes I don't mind being interrupted on the beach (assuming I'm not within sight of my wife LOL)
 

Depends on what "chatty Cathy" looks like and what she's wearing! Sometimes I don't mind being interrupted on the beach (assuming I'm not within sight of my wife LOL)

I tell my wife and friends that metal detectors attract women. They refuse to believe it but it's so true. Of course it could just be the smell of gold.
 

Yeah, I have had some very beautiful women come up and start conversations. Some were quite stunning. And some in nice bikinis. Bummer to be in a 60 year old body with a 27 year old mind.
 

The cuties approach you on the beach because they feel safe striking up a conversation. Heck, it's an old guy with a gut and a detector.
 

If I wanted love and affection, I would get my self a Cocker Spaniel.
When I want to escape, I pick up my metal detector, and beach hunt for peace and solitude.
Why would you expect a complete stranger to stop whatever he or she is doing to chit chat with you or anyone else for that matter?

In my opinion It's not about being friendly polite or rude, it's a matter of respect for the rights of others.
If they want to talk and share story, they will come to you, after you have greeted them - or even before if they are curious or you have earned their respect by the way you hunt.
If not let them be and enjoy the day!

I've been detecting for about 5 years, mostly on beaches. In that time I've met about a dozen detectorists on beaches that I hunt. No matter how friendly I try to be, I always get the impression that I'm infringing on someone else's territory. Even if I was there first. Most times they're polite but not overly friendly. I don't know what I could find short of a gold stash that I wouldn't be just as delighted to have a fellow detectorists find and share the story. Yet the club I belong to seems to have great folks (while at the meetings). Wish folks would realize that the most wealth we will come away with is the friends we make.
 

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Life is too short to be so serious...don't sweat the small stuff.
 

Where r u hunting? I always have five minutes to talk to people, whether they are detecting or not. I get some of my best leads that way. I love seeing finds, showing (some) finds. When they ripped up the boardwalk, well that was super territorial lol. People were scrambling to get in there before the construction guys left the site. We are lucky the police are so friendly here or all of us could have gotten in trouble for trespassing. Best of luck!
 

If I wanted love and affection, I would get my self a Cocker Spaniel.
When I want to escape, I pick up my metal detector, and beach hunt for peace and solitude.
Why would you expect a complete stranger to stop whatever he or she is doing to chit chat with you or anyone else for that matter?

In my opinion It's not about being friendly polite or rude, it's a matter of respect for the rights of others.
If they want to talk and share story, they will come to you, after you have greeted them - or even before if they are curious or you have earned their respect by the way you hunt.
If not let them be and enjoy the day!
This situation doesn't arise only when MDing - IMHO. I've had curious on-lookers when I've been digging clams, ice-fishing, looking for NA artifacts, etc., pretty much any activity that the onlooker isn't familiar with. I really think it is no more than curiosity on their part. When I'm MDing and show them a handful of flip tabs and bottle caps that I've recently found, they usually just walk away, telling themselves "This guy is NUTS!" LOL Same thing when I'm waist deep in 32degree salt water digging a few cherry stone clams or standing on a frozen lake fighting off hypothermia to catch and release a few small fish. Once, while walking the shoreline at a lake, when I told an obviously "well to do" elderly woman that I was looking for arrowheads, she gave me the most disdainful sneer and asked "Why would anyone do that?" I think she would have been less disgusted if I told her that I drank my own urine. Anyhow, I never mind sharing a little info with decent folks. When I really need the peaceand solitude, I beach hunt at night.
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Tell ms prune that there's a special type of arrowhead that fetches over $10,000. Then look for her out hunting them next week.
 

You just haven't met me. I also love talking to fellow metal detectorists on the beach and, overall, they have been very friendly. I'm polite but keep it short with tourists - I'm there to metal detect not move my mouth.
 

I probably have one big advantage over you other MDers... When the curious folks get close enough to see that I resemble the troll under the bridge in fairy tales, the visit is usually cut short. My visage has been known to scare young children and frighten domesticated animals. As for the b----y old lady... the last thing I'd want is to have her looking for artifacts with me. AND... (as if you haven't heard enough already) before my loving wife made me quit the habit, a well-timed stream of tobacco juice was a good way to wrap up most of the unwanted social encounters. Dang I miss my chew!
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