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I am looking for my T-Net friends to give me some advice. This is kind of personal so I don't mean to throw out my business out there in the public world, but here goes!
My so called girlfriend, (I been living in her house for 10 years the exact same with us being together). Well for the last couple of years our relationship pretty much dwindled to nothing and of course she never wanted me to move out because she doesn't have to worry about doing anything like laundry, maintaining her house, cooking, etc.
Several times when she told me to get my stuff and move out, the minute I would start packing she would tell me she didn't want me to leave. So short story on that, I was self employed for 7 years with my business and of course the Army pretty much closed my business because I was to deploy in 2009-2010, but date got moved to later 2010, then the deployment got canceled all together. So for almost 2 years I was looking for work and no one was hiring me muc less calling me for interviews. So I was pretty much broke financially except for my weekend Army reserves pay that covered my bills every month.
The whole time we been together for the 10 years, she would never let me pay any bills at her house, like electricity, water, sewer, mortgage, etc, I know the reason why! She did not want me to have a paper trail of me paying anything due to Texas community property law! She would insist I just buy groceries, buy stuff for the house, that went wrong, etc. But while I was in business I would put a copuple of thousand her her personal bank account almost very 2-3 months. Dang, I wish now that I kept the transactions reciepts! But the lady who always waited on me at the bank KNOWS I been doing it for years from 2006-2009 just before I went out of business, because she would comment, "She wished a man would just put money in her account like I was doing with my girlfriends account!"
Here is some insight;
She has a daughter that her and I never got along. She has a husband and she takes her husbands check and tells him what do you. She makes more money than her husband and of course he can't do anything or buy anything he wants unless he makes extra money or sells something to get the extra cash because he can't use any part of his paycheck! He is whooped bad! They been married for 15 years and she has 2 teenagers, (1 boy 16 and 1 girl 17), plus they have a little child together, (6 years old). Let me ad that her daughter, (my girlfriends), talks so loud like she is across the street talking to someone even though you are standing right in front of her. She is a loud mouth, but sometimes she talks with a normal tone, but it is very few far in between when she does!
Here is the main problem I don't know how to handle;
My girlfriend, (the one I am living in her house with), had her daughter, her two teenagers, son-n-law, and their 6 year old boy move into my girlfriends house because they are having a house built because they sold theirs. Well no one asked me anything and I am pretty much being walked on, not just by my girlfriend, but her daughter as well. If I say something that I feel is wrong to my girlfriend or no one asks what my opinion is about anything and I am told I better shut up when I say something because I am not bowing down to anyone! I am being told I need to stay out of it. They moved in almost 4 weeks ago and the builder hasn't even started the slab for their house and won't start it to July 15th. Her daughter makes 6 figures a year, and her huisband works from home and didn't want to rent a place while their house is going to be built and they wanted to save some money so they moved in here!
When they moved in I told my girlfriend and her daughter I didn't want crap piled up in the garage because I work on stuff and need my space. Well, I had to move everything out of my bedrooms and wieght room to make room for them to stay here when they moved in. So I insisted my garage be left as is. But what happened? You can't hardly move around in the garage. When I said something to my girlfriend about it, or not finding any dishes and dishes either in the bedroom or piled in the sink, or trash just left out on the table, or living room from when they went out to eat and brought it home and too lazy to throw the trash away, or leaving laundry in the washer and dryer for days, etc and the kids don't do crap!!!!!!!! I get told all I do is B*&#CH and complain. Really?
The problem is the 2 teenagers, (boy 16, girl 17), don't do crap around here, they eat in their bedrooms, leaves dishes that had food on them from lunch dinner or whatever in the bedrooms, lets not forget the trash like water bottle and whatever else! If they do bring in the dishes, the just drop it on the counter or in the sink instead of putting it in the dishwasher. If the trash can is full they will just pile whatever trash on it, (overflowing out of the trash can), and won't do crap. They are lazy as heck!
Now that school is out, the mother, (my girlfriends daughter), lets and allows her 2 teenagers to run the roads all night long coming in between 3:30-5:00am or not at all. If they do come in those times, they sleep until 1 or 2 in the afternoon! The teenage daughter goes out drinking and partying all night and the mother is OK with it and doesn't do anything about it nad thinks it is OK! She has known her daughter has been doing this to include sneaking out at night since she was 14. The mother and step dad goes over to their friends house once in a while, (almost every weekend), to drink and party and they talk to her kids like it is OK, they tell them they or mom got drunk and what they drank and moms jokes about it like it is normal! Sorry I know it is sorry parenting!
The problem is, now that they are all living here at my girlfriends house they are totally disrupting my life. If the granddaughter has been out and too drunk to drive, (some times she does drinve her car), she will call her mom, but her mom won't answer her phone at night so then she calls my girlfriends phone to come pick her up! (This isn't the first time, happened 4 times in 3 weeks!)
Well, now that I been working 12 hour days in the Texas heat 6 days a week, tonight was no acception. I get woke up because my grilfriend and I are in the same bed has to get up at 2:45 to go pick up her granddaughter. Then when she got back, her daugher comes knocking on the bedroom door at 3:39 and tells her something is wrong with her son, (the 16 year old), and didn't know what to do, and he is somewhere at a friends house and his eyes are hurting and red, he told his mom he had been swimming all day. I am like WTH!!! Thinking to myself? You can't go pick up your own freaken son and you can't figure out what to do so you come knock on moomy's door and wake both of us up to ask her
REALLY?? He has a truck!!! BTW! So she tells my girlfriend that she was conccerned if her son went to the emergency room that he may have been drinking and didn't want him to get a DUI if he had been drinking. (So the step dad later left to go pick him up! They got back here at 4:47am!)
I got up and told my girlfriend with her daughter standing there in front of the bedroom door with her loud mouth, (Well, so much for getting any sleep I said aloud!) I got up made some coffee and went outside to smoke and closed the front door hard, (oh I am not allowed to smoke in the house becuse my girlfriends daughter doesn't want her 6 year old to be subject to second hand smoke!) I come back in slammed the front door. I told both my girlfriend and her daughter you know I don't need to be woke up all the time when I am working 12 hour days in the Texas heat! My girlfriend came back and said you jsut got that job! I told her that for the last week I been coming in so tired that I can hardly walk, much less feel like eating, and I told her how have I been comiing in? Last Tuesday and Wednesday I had a heat stroke at work, (Yes I was drinking gallons of water, I mean like 4-5 gallons a day nad I still was not sweating!) Yes, this was a lot of in direct sun and heat doing labor work both of which I am not really used to!
So my girlfriend tells me I need to be quiet and shut up. I told her I am getting sick and tired of my opinion don't matter or I don't have a say so in the matter.
Fact is I am not financially able to move out much less move anywhere as I really don't have any close friends here so I can't even get on my own 2 feet. Otherwise I would leave this place in a heartbeat!!!!
Fact is my girlfriends daughter and her family will be here for at least 6 months longer until their house is built on their land.
I thought about using my voice activated tape recorder everytime the mom talks about drinking and getting drunk to her daughter and her daughter talks about how much she had to drink, and then go to the police department and let them hear it all. But the fact is I will loose either way and be told to move out and I don't have the money to do so or I would!
Sorry for putting it out there, but I need some serious advice bad, (before I do something stoopid), because I am not going to be able to take this crap for another 5-6 months!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
My so called girlfriend, (I been living in her house for 10 years the exact same with us being together). Well for the last couple of years our relationship pretty much dwindled to nothing and of course she never wanted me to move out because she doesn't have to worry about doing anything like laundry, maintaining her house, cooking, etc.
Several times when she told me to get my stuff and move out, the minute I would start packing she would tell me she didn't want me to leave. So short story on that, I was self employed for 7 years with my business and of course the Army pretty much closed my business because I was to deploy in 2009-2010, but date got moved to later 2010, then the deployment got canceled all together. So for almost 2 years I was looking for work and no one was hiring me muc less calling me for interviews. So I was pretty much broke financially except for my weekend Army reserves pay that covered my bills every month.
The whole time we been together for the 10 years, she would never let me pay any bills at her house, like electricity, water, sewer, mortgage, etc, I know the reason why! She did not want me to have a paper trail of me paying anything due to Texas community property law! She would insist I just buy groceries, buy stuff for the house, that went wrong, etc. But while I was in business I would put a copuple of thousand her her personal bank account almost very 2-3 months. Dang, I wish now that I kept the transactions reciepts! But the lady who always waited on me at the bank KNOWS I been doing it for years from 2006-2009 just before I went out of business, because she would comment, "She wished a man would just put money in her account like I was doing with my girlfriends account!"
Here is some insight;
She has a daughter that her and I never got along. She has a husband and she takes her husbands check and tells him what do you. She makes more money than her husband and of course he can't do anything or buy anything he wants unless he makes extra money or sells something to get the extra cash because he can't use any part of his paycheck! He is whooped bad! They been married for 15 years and she has 2 teenagers, (1 boy 16 and 1 girl 17), plus they have a little child together, (6 years old). Let me ad that her daughter, (my girlfriends), talks so loud like she is across the street talking to someone even though you are standing right in front of her. She is a loud mouth, but sometimes she talks with a normal tone, but it is very few far in between when she does!
Here is the main problem I don't know how to handle;
My girlfriend, (the one I am living in her house with), had her daughter, her two teenagers, son-n-law, and their 6 year old boy move into my girlfriends house because they are having a house built because they sold theirs. Well no one asked me anything and I am pretty much being walked on, not just by my girlfriend, but her daughter as well. If I say something that I feel is wrong to my girlfriend or no one asks what my opinion is about anything and I am told I better shut up when I say something because I am not bowing down to anyone! I am being told I need to stay out of it. They moved in almost 4 weeks ago and the builder hasn't even started the slab for their house and won't start it to July 15th. Her daughter makes 6 figures a year, and her huisband works from home and didn't want to rent a place while their house is going to be built and they wanted to save some money so they moved in here!
When they moved in I told my girlfriend and her daughter I didn't want crap piled up in the garage because I work on stuff and need my space. Well, I had to move everything out of my bedrooms and wieght room to make room for them to stay here when they moved in. So I insisted my garage be left as is. But what happened? You can't hardly move around in the garage. When I said something to my girlfriend about it, or not finding any dishes and dishes either in the bedroom or piled in the sink, or trash just left out on the table, or living room from when they went out to eat and brought it home and too lazy to throw the trash away, or leaving laundry in the washer and dryer for days, etc and the kids don't do crap!!!!!!!! I get told all I do is B*&#CH and complain. Really?
The problem is the 2 teenagers, (boy 16, girl 17), don't do crap around here, they eat in their bedrooms, leaves dishes that had food on them from lunch dinner or whatever in the bedrooms, lets not forget the trash like water bottle and whatever else! If they do bring in the dishes, the just drop it on the counter or in the sink instead of putting it in the dishwasher. If the trash can is full they will just pile whatever trash on it, (overflowing out of the trash can), and won't do crap. They are lazy as heck!
Now that school is out, the mother, (my girlfriends daughter), lets and allows her 2 teenagers to run the roads all night long coming in between 3:30-5:00am or not at all. If they do come in those times, they sleep until 1 or 2 in the afternoon! The teenage daughter goes out drinking and partying all night and the mother is OK with it and doesn't do anything about it nad thinks it is OK! She has known her daughter has been doing this to include sneaking out at night since she was 14. The mother and step dad goes over to their friends house once in a while, (almost every weekend), to drink and party and they talk to her kids like it is OK, they tell them they or mom got drunk and what they drank and moms jokes about it like it is normal! Sorry I know it is sorry parenting!
The problem is, now that they are all living here at my girlfriends house they are totally disrupting my life. If the granddaughter has been out and too drunk to drive, (some times she does drinve her car), she will call her mom, but her mom won't answer her phone at night so then she calls my girlfriends phone to come pick her up! (This isn't the first time, happened 4 times in 3 weeks!)
Well, now that I been working 12 hour days in the Texas heat 6 days a week, tonight was no acception. I get woke up because my grilfriend and I are in the same bed has to get up at 2:45 to go pick up her granddaughter. Then when she got back, her daugher comes knocking on the bedroom door at 3:39 and tells her something is wrong with her son, (the 16 year old), and didn't know what to do, and he is somewhere at a friends house and his eyes are hurting and red, he told his mom he had been swimming all day. I am like WTH!!! Thinking to myself? You can't go pick up your own freaken son and you can't figure out what to do so you come knock on moomy's door and wake both of us up to ask her
REALLY?? He has a truck!!! BTW! So she tells my girlfriend that she was conccerned if her son went to the emergency room that he may have been drinking and didn't want him to get a DUI if he had been drinking. (So the step dad later left to go pick him up! They got back here at 4:47am!)I got up and told my girlfriend with her daughter standing there in front of the bedroom door with her loud mouth, (Well, so much for getting any sleep I said aloud!) I got up made some coffee and went outside to smoke and closed the front door hard, (oh I am not allowed to smoke in the house becuse my girlfriends daughter doesn't want her 6 year old to be subject to second hand smoke!) I come back in slammed the front door. I told both my girlfriend and her daughter you know I don't need to be woke up all the time when I am working 12 hour days in the Texas heat! My girlfriend came back and said you jsut got that job! I told her that for the last week I been coming in so tired that I can hardly walk, much less feel like eating, and I told her how have I been comiing in? Last Tuesday and Wednesday I had a heat stroke at work, (Yes I was drinking gallons of water, I mean like 4-5 gallons a day nad I still was not sweating!) Yes, this was a lot of in direct sun and heat doing labor work both of which I am not really used to!
So my girlfriend tells me I need to be quiet and shut up. I told her I am getting sick and tired of my opinion don't matter or I don't have a say so in the matter.
Fact is I am not financially able to move out much less move anywhere as I really don't have any close friends here so I can't even get on my own 2 feet. Otherwise I would leave this place in a heartbeat!!!!
Fact is my girlfriends daughter and her family will be here for at least 6 months longer until their house is built on their land.
I thought about using my voice activated tape recorder everytime the mom talks about drinking and getting drunk to her daughter and her daughter talks about how much she had to drink, and then go to the police department and let them hear it all. But the fact is I will loose either way and be told to move out and I don't have the money to do so or I would!
Sorry for putting it out there, but I need some serious advice bad, (before I do something stoopid), because I am not going to be able to take this crap for another 5-6 months!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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