Im in a quandry

[truckinbutch]

I'm in a quandry

The first love of my life was 6 years older than me .We lived in her parent's motel complex for 3 years in the high country of Dillon,CO while my father worked the hard rock in the Climax moly mine .
We came back to WV in late 1956. Some family members remained for a time and years later shared with us that a couple years after we left that beautiful darkeyed girl died in a fall from a cliff .
Suspicion was that her boyfriend had pushed her.No proof...
Googled Dillon ,Co cemetary today and some photographer had a pic of the headstone ...
" Connie Lynn Offerson 11/14/44 to 8/29/58" in the relocated Dillon Cemetary .
Chilled me to the bone .
Further searching turned up her brother ; who was my buddy during those years, with no listed phone numbers and her 84 year old mother with a number .
I'd like to refresh old friendships but do not wish to rip scabs off an 84 year old woman's wounds for the sake of nostalgia .
All opinions will be considered.

 

[stoney56]

Re: I'm in a quandry

If you left on good terms, I don't really see a problem. Why not dash off a letter explaing you want to try and contact her son and why. Give your name, addy, and phone #. Let them decide whether to pass on the info on.

 

[Lowbatts]

Re: I'm in a quandry

As I've said to a couple cousins and friends in thier last days, "What wouldn't we give to be 8 or 10 again and chasing fish out of the water at the swamp. Even knowing we'd have to go through all the hard times awaiting us from that age on."

Never hurts to rebuild those old smiles, the ones you don't think you have left anymore.

 

[done dug it all up]

Re: I'm in a quandry

I dont think id mention the daughter to the mother--just ask for the brother's contact information since you two used to be friends.


done dugit

 

[cntrydncr1]

Re: I'm in a quandry

If you left on good terms, I don't really see a problem. Why not dash off a letter explaing you want to try and contact her son and why. Give your name, addy, and phone #. Let them decide whether to pass on the info on.

I agree but before you do try classmates.com and facebook also. Register and do a search for your friend. You would be surprised how many people are on one of the 2 sites.

 

[Smee]

Re: I'm in a quandry

www.veromi.net has a neat search tool.

Know the last name and at least one of the following:

First name
Age
DOB
city, state

and you can find out where to start looking for them. Pulls credit headers to tease us skiptracers to spend money. Sometimes just knowing where to start looking is enough to find a long lost debtor.

It also gives relatives names and roomates. Hope it helps.

 

[truckinbutch]

Re: I'm in a quandry

Thanks ,all ;
I think a letter with a stamped self addressed envelope included will be the most noninvasive approach .
The lady has the option of responding or simply mailing an empty envelope if she wishes no contact.
I'm interested to see where this stick floats.