mojjax sorry to hear of your loss -- being a merchant marine myself for 27 years and "traveling" sort of person for a living -- I know that we "traveler" sort of men are often gone away from our loved ones --that does not mean we do not love them , just that we gotta work for a living and that the "normal" stay at home , dead end low paying 9 to 5 grind "jobs" just will not cut it for our type of person--- if we had to do "dead end" jobs like that for a few years , we would blow our brains out of sheer boredom --we have to see and do and go places and mentally "live" outside the 9 to 5 cage most normal folks are "trapped in" --- that doesn't mean we do not love our wives and kids , we do greatly and often we spend a lot of time thinking and talking about of home and loved ones to other men where we work , sadly most women can't stand the long amount of time alone that comes with being married to a "travelling" sort of man -- and thus we wind up divorced (par for the course it seems) -- I am glad that you seem to understand the type of man , your father was and were not bitter about the time away like many kids are -- often we hear from our children--- dad you were not "there" for me as a kid, so I hate you. --- I'm very glad that you and and father got along so well and a deeply sorry to hear of your loss.