Would you stay quiet or not (updated)

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here is the problem I have like this life time friend good guy. I told him I detected and he seemed really interested I didn't think any more about it until 3 days later he turns up with some really cheap detector in hand and three coins.

So wheres the problem all three coins where in pristine condition and all gold. He told such a tale about the countless hours he looked for them etc etc this went on until I fell asleep when I awoke he had let himself out.

I figured if he had found them good on him and if he hadn't a little sad really after not seeing him for several weeks he turns up in a public house where we both drink flashing a gold watch and a gold ring on each finger.

again his tales although highly entertaining almost like an action movie were become lets just say a tad over the top.

I asked him about Vdi numbers and he said "Oh that's cool I always use percautions".

I had such a time trying to keep a straight face next I asked him what he thought about the halo effect

"I just got that for my Ps 2 " came his reply.

so ended the night the next day I saw him coming out of the coin shop but didn't let him see me looking in the window I saw 2 empty spaces in the coin tray making a note of the two missing coins I returned home.

We were both at a party when he announces that hes found two new coins so I asked him if I have ever seen them before he says of course not so I ask him to pass them to the girl hes with which he does then I name the coins she opens her hand and low and behold I'm right.

That's when I announce how I knew them wrong I know but his bragging was getting to be a pain.

His response is to land one right on my chin and Storm out.

He was a good friend apart from the white lies but refuses to talk to me.

Should I try to make it up to him or move on.

Thanks

now for the update

Thanks for all the great replys heres the update ring my ex friend no reply went to his door no one in

So I wrote him a letter stating that I had received a whip lash injury due to his right fist connecting with my chin.

And after due consideration and loss of earnings and a dip in my love life I was intent on suing the crap outta him.

He rang me up and said "my stunt had caused him mental distress and one broken finger on the right hand that had connected with my chin.

I agreed he was mental and said I was glad his right handed activitys were zero. As I heard his gal had left him this must mean he had no other avenues if you know what I mean.

I called him a name that refers to a common right handed male activity
(keeping it clean for the younger tnet members).

The laughing like a manic said "I take that back due to the condition of your right hand"

Just about this time he seemed to get a little upset and promptly asked me out and I dont mean for a Mcdonalds.

The big fight is due monday next did I mention that he is 22 Stone knows serveral ways to kill a man including the Vulcan death grip and that move Bruce lee does in enter the dragon.

That way I figure it I cant lose Im doing a self learning course in voodo and have made a little doll of him just in case that doesnt work I have a back up plan teach yourself Judo and back up plan C is triple my accident and injury insurance.
 

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My hunting buddy and I have ONE rule we will NEVER break and that is plant something or claim you found something you didn't


If he is being like this then I say to heck with him....
 

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I've known a friend or two like this. Your only two choices were to go along with the big stories or cry foul and likely lose the friendship. You've already cried foul so in my opinion, there's no going back. It's sad that some people think they have to cheat or lie to get acceptance or recognition, but there it is. I wouldn't try to salvage this relationship unless you think you can support him past that kind of activity, but I'm betting, from what you've written, that it's too late.
Bill
 

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A real friend wouldn't pull that lying crap on you... did you punch him back? as for making up with him.. let him find another person to spread his lies... if theres one thing I cant stand... its a person claiming to find something they didnt.. I absolutely hate that.. and I will never ever do that myself.. what goes round comes round..your x friend well lets just say, I wouln't wanna be in his shoes.. what a dip chit..
 

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Possible way to look at this would be........

Which is more important to you...................his lying.....................or his friendship?

I agree with you that it was important that you reign him in, but in so doing you may have destroyed your friendship. Maybe...just maybe....he looked up to you so much as a friend, that he wanted to impress you by showing you that he could be on your equal.

I've always been bad with trying to patch up differences with friends. Sometimes I'm embarassed for them....and sometimes I'm embarrassed about what I have said or done.

I have known people who are pathological liars, and it is extremely hard not to call them out on their lies. So, I can feel for your quandry.

I don't think any of us can tell you what to do. I think you have to make the decision. And when you make that decision, let it come from your heart, not the mouth.

Just a thought, not a sermon.

--Mel

borninok
 

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i personally wouldnt wanna be around somebody that cant open their mouth without lying!
Who knows, he may be out there lying about you!
Move on...he's not worth it!
 

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As I always say you can trust an enemy( You know what he is up to)

You cannot trust a friend. He can still be a friend, just don't trust him.
Gnewt
 

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call him out on it
 

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This guy assaulted you and was not just lying to you but going out and buying gold coins to show you how good he is. (FRAWED) Stay away from him!!!!!
 

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I asked him about Vdi numbers and he said "Oh that's cool I always use percautions".

LMAO - Now thats comedy!

Great Post Striker!

If he's that important to you, just start taking him detecting with you! He can learn from you and you guys can restore your friendship, if thats what you want. Or - maybe he will put you onto some of those gold finds! LOL Either way, and we've talked about this before here... maybe it's all he could do to impress you and get you to accept him.

The real question is; "How much do you value his friendship?"

Personally I'm not sure I'd want to give up that kind of entertainment! LMAO
 

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Montana Jim said:
I asked him about Vdi numbers and he said "Oh that's cool I always use percautions".

LMAO - Now thats comedy!

Great Post Striker!

If he's that important to you, just start taking him detecting with you! He can learn from you and you guys can restore your friendship, if thats what you want. Or - maybe he will put you onto some of those gold finds! LOL Either way, and we've talked about this before here... maybe it's all he could do to impress you and get you to accept him.

The real question is; "How much do you value his friendship?"

We base our responses on just what you say - which will obviously be slanted...

Personally I'm not sure I'd want to give up that kind of entertainment! LMAO

Amen! lol Honestly though I agree with Jim.....you have to decide what his friendship means to you and whether you are able to look past his willingness to be dishonest in order to impress you and decide from there what to do next. I don't agree at all with what he did but I do not know this person and what other attributes he has. Do they outweigh this incident or do they not? I do have friends I have had to make similar decisions concerning and some I have kept....not saying I totally trust all they say or I consider them best friends or confide much in them, just that I value their friendship in spite of that issue they have. They certainly ARE entertaining and in all honesty....others see through their bluster and ego as well so we grin and roll our eyes but love them anyway. lol Others I chose to distance myself from because I felt the area they were dishonest in was truly foundational to a friendship or that their attributes did not outweigh the issue. It is up to you from here. Curious to see what you will do. Best of luck to you!
 

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If a friend lies to you about his finds... then what else is he lying to you about? that is something to think long and hard on... once a liar,always a liar... its like a diesease.. god I hate glory seekers..
 

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Friend or not he has got a sore jaw coming ;D...d2
 

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sounds to me like the guy has some serious mental issues. personally, i dont like to surround myself with people like that, but thats me.
 

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Have to ask - why is it bothering you so much?

Do you really value his "friendship"? If so - you've got your answer. If not - you still have your answer.

Of course, lying friends are not what I personally like, but, if you know they lie, you just take everything they say, divide it in half, and keep on listening and nod appropriately.

Now, I would say, if you "outed" him in front of others, I'm not sure that's what a friend would do, either.

B
 

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Your friend seems to have some underlying issues,jealous possibly or maybe a need for approval,and maybe just a plain old liar,but looks to me like you would have known this one already.The thing is and I'm no expert you must decide whether or not he is worth the effort,and if so you must be very candid with him,comunication,understanding,and absolute TRUTH are in my opinion the only way to save this friendship.Maybe he just wanted to be included,so take him metaldetecting and have a heart to heart if this does'nt work then maybe it's over.Go with your heart,gut,etc,and either way it will be the right decision.GOOD LUCK.
 

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TreasureTales said:
hollowpointred said:
sounds to me like the guy has some serious mental issues. personally, i dont like to surround myself with people like that, but thats me.

And yet you surround yourself with all of us. :D

nobodies perfect! ::) ::) ::) ;D ;D :D
 

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Go to the next chapter of your life.
 

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