The secret is as soon as you get married offer to do everything for her but then just do it really poorly. Keep saying you want to do it and they will start telling you not to....then sit back and relax. This will cost you a little money in the beginning when you have to buy her a new wardrobe since you destroyed the one she had and the dishes will need to be washed a second or third time to get the hard as cement dried food you missed the first time but it is money well spent. LOL...only kidding. I can't sit around so if I'm home I'm doing something to stay busy.
We both lucked out and found the best spouse for us.
NJ