Sharing my grief this past evening. Stuck on ridge and then....

[Crosse De Sign]

..."Henceforth there is a 'Crown Of Life' layed up for the Righteous."

Your Brave and Beautiful Daughter, and Awesome Trooper Grandson,

have shown up in the hereafter to claim theirs. Don't be too sore, that

they beat you, and the rest of us, so soon, so far. You did rather quite

well, the time you had access to them, that seems beyond obvious.

They, and our tender loving GOD The Father, Brave LORD Jesus,

The Awesome HOLY SPIRIT, and all of The Holy Angels, know well of it...

"Though He Slay Me, Shall I Trust Him"... JOB

Sincerely, as no stranger to repeated severe grief, and tragedy... Crosse

 

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[TKgal]

Good morning all... I wrote the Franklin Chief of Police yesterday looking for some answers about the last few minutes of Kristi's and Carter's lives. I'd really like to know. Aside from my request I was asked something by them! Last week I wrote the Chief thanking her for her kind words on TV and the newspapers. I told her more about Kristi and mentioned to her that I always told all my children while growing up that if your going to do it... "Do it with PRIDE".

Miss Faulkner (police chief) asked me if it would be ok if her new graduating class of officers in May be dedicated to Kristi and Carter? And... the class motto be "Do it with Pride" and would I attend please. Super nice gesture by her and the department. I humbly approved all and will be proud to attend in May.

Wow! This is quite a tribute to the way your daughter and grandson lived life. Great examples and wise words to inspire with ....too. Please... remember to tell us about that day when it comes to pass. Thank you for sharing.

TKgal

 

[Limitool]

Wow! This is quite a tribute to the way your daughter and grandson lived life. Great examples and wise words to inspire with ....too. Please... remember to tell us about that day when it comes to pass. Thank you for sharing.

TKgal

Thank you TKgal... I'll try and remember to post about that upcoming day. And, it is very kind thing for them to do to honor Kristi and Carter that way.

And to all the members here and just readers who have lost a child or grandchild I am so sorry for your loss also. I know many of you have and I'm not the only one. I just needed to tell someone and request all of you to "touch base" with your loved ones.

I'd like to build a couple of custom toy boxes in honor of Kristi and Carter to donate to a charity for auction. But, I can't seem to get my head wrapped around what to do or the correct charity. The ex-military guys came and picked up the two I made for them to auction yesterday. I understand there going to the "Snowball Express" to help children of fallen soldiers. I'll think of something soon to build and donate.

Brad

 

[TKgal]

I'd like to build a couple of custom toy boxes in honor of Kristi and Carter to donate to a charity for auction. But, I can't seem to get my head wrapped around what to do or the correct charity.

Brad

Just a thought.....when you can, build the boxes. The police and emergency personnel might know of a worthy charity.(one that they support).

 

[dieselram94]

Brad, I just discovered this today. Your in my prayers, this kind of loss should never be endured by anyone. Please do build the boxes. It is a great idea.


Sent from a empty soda can!

 

[Limitool]

Just a thought.....when you can, build the boxes. The police and emergency personnel might know of a worthy charity.(one that they support).

Good idea TKgal.... Now I just got to figure out what to put on the boxes. Building a couple of boxes won't be hard but I can't figure out how/what to customize Kristi & Carter upon them...?

dieselram94.... Thanks and I am going to build them... but what?

 

[mikeraydj]

Speechless. So sorry for your loss.

 

[pescadore]

I am so sorry for your loss and have been going through that same grief process myself. A little over 6 months ago my 21 year old son took his own life after a long stuggle with bi-polar and addiction. It has been the hardest thing I have ever gone through. I can't imagine how hard it is to lose your daughter and your grandson but you will be in my prayers. Our only hope on this Earth is that we will be reunited with our lost loved ones in Heaven !!! Peace be with you !!
Pesc

 

[justdon]

So sorry for your loss.As my grandfather used to say don't cry smile god has them now.You have my prayers in hopes that it will comfort you in your time of grief.

 

[Pointman]

I've seen my share of death. Quite a few people I know have died over the last ten years. As hard as it is to accept when things are still fresh, it just takes time to get settled into things. You never really recover from it in a way. I just realized that I had only two choices which were to wallow in it, or just try to move forward, but it still took me many months. It affected me to the extent that I hung up my military career after 20 years and was planning to go to officer school before my wife passed away. I realized that nothing really mattered but our relationships. It made it a much easier choice, because a month after she had died, I was told to "move on and get over it" by my superiors. In a way, I am thankful that they told me that. I "woke up" from my ambitions and ego.

What I had learned through my experiences of losing people all these people, is that funerals and all that is for the living to be made closer and feel like they are doing something. The people who have passed away don't care, likewise a person can blame themselves for not doing something, or preventing a death, but it really doesn't matter. First couple of years after my wife passed away, I would remember her during birthdays, etc., I still do it for the children to think about her, but it really doesn't matter and only makes me feel bad to dwell on these things. Honestly, it turns me off that funeral arrangements have become so commercialized, to the point that I prearranged and paid for mine and it is very simple.

I pray that things will get better for you. With each day, it will. Trust me.

 

[Limitool]

I am so sorry for your loss and have been going through that same grief process myself. A little over 6 months ago my 21 year old son took his own life after a long stuggle with bi-polar and addiction. It has been the hardest thing I have ever gone through. I can't imagine how hard it is to lose your daughter and your grandson but you will be in my prayers. Our only hope on this Earth is that we will be reunited with our lost loved ones in Heaven !!! Peace be with you !!
Pesc

I am absolutely sorry for your loss and can't imagine watching it possibly coming or when it did. Your post brings tears to my eyes again. I cry every day for my loss... but I mainly cry because I hadn't talked to her for 3-4 weeks prior to her and Carter being killed. NEVER AGAIN WILL THAT HAPPEN TO MY REMAINING 7 CHILDREN.

justdon.... I know God has them now along with my Grandparents and my father. Like pescadore above... many of us have lost children/grandchildren in different ways... I'm just dealing with my lost here as I know best.

Thank you both.... Brad

 

[Limitool]

Pointman.... I'm sorry for your loss also. And your right buddy funerals are for the living to become closer not the dead. You are so RIGHT!

 

[worldtalker]

Brad,

You will get through this,it takes time Brother,and no one can set that time.

GOD Bless you and ALL the Family


Chris

 

[RustyGold]

Limitool,
I have tears in my eyes while I read your posts. By all means build the boxes and the designs will come. Although I'm not there with you or stand in your shoes, my spirit and heart are!
Heal as quick as you can to be the best you can be for your family as well as yourself.
Best regards,
Rusty

 

[Crosse De Sign]

I am absolutely sorry for your loss and can't imagine watching it possibly coming or when it did. Your post brings tears to my eyes again. I cry every day for my loss... but I mainly cry because I hadn't talked to her for 3-4 weeks prior to her and Carter being killed. NEVER AGAIN WILL THAT HAPPEN TO MY REMAINING 7 CHILDREN.

justdon.... I know God has them now along with my Grandparents and my father. Like pescadore above... many of us have lost children/grandchildren in different ways... I'm just dealing with my lost here as I know best.

Thank you both.... Brad

Brad,

Try not to be too hard on yourself. We all, naturally,
wish we would, or could have done something more,
or different, when we lose loved ones. Especially,
when there is a sudden and tragic loss, and of
course, also for all of the other reasons...

Some people may not understand, or may not
be able to deal with it, as well as others may
be able to. It's not easy, no matter how one
seems to react. Then some supposed humor,
leaves quite a lot to be desired, that one also
deals with, that on top of the soul aging losses,
that do crush the heart and dampen the spirit.

Words are superficial, acts of kindness and true
heartfelt understanding are sometimes very few,
but do help some. That you celebrate them, there
is no question, no one can take that away from you,
not ever, don't worry about the rest...

Yes the service, flowers, music, whatever else is chosen,
is only seen by the living. Done as a tribute, and last respects,
a memorial to honor those loved and lost for now. People however,
are often too busy to come together, except on such occasions. Take Care...

 

[Limitool]

Thank you Crosse De Sign:

Your right that the service, flowers and music are for the living.

While I don't want to seem that I'm the only parent who has buried a child or grandchild I struggle with it badly as anyone has or would. It's getting worse for me each day for some reason. I guess the reality is setting in more and more. The last two days I cry over morning coffee, breakfast and my shower. Then I go to woodshop to work and the thoughts follow me and I cry more. Then I get the mail in the afternoon and the mailbox is filled with cards still and I sit in my car and cry. I searched the web this morning and found stories about Kristi and Carter throughout the world... I couldn't believe it.

Again... I KNOW I'm not the only parent to lose a child or grandchild but loosing both at the exact same moment just doesn't even seem remotely fair (too me). This thread is not meant to be a "pity party" for my family or me. It's meant to be more than that. I am so proud of what Carter and Kristi did when they witnessed the horrible rollover and then tried to help under the bad conditions then for those 5 folks including children. I would have done the same thing and would expect or want the same from another. Our service men and women have done the same in the heat of battle for years.

My point with this thread is to encourage EVERYBODY to tell those who you love THAT YOU LOVE THEM.... often. I missed 3-4 weeks telling her and it's tearing me apart inside.

We've received MANY cards from an area church and it's members among many others. I think I'm going to build a custom made Memorial Toy Box and donate to this church for them to fill with items for a needy family with children within our area and deliver filled including the toy box. I'll get "better" but it's going to take a long time.... Brad

 

[TKgal]

We've received MANY cards from an area church and it's members among many others. I think I'm going to build a custom made Memorial Toy Box and donate to this church for them to fill with items for a needy family with children within our area and deliver filled including the toy box. I'll get "better" but it's going to take a long time.... Brad

Wow, this is a great idea!

 

[Skifisher]

My heart is broken for you. I have not talked to my daughter in a long time, that is changing now. You are in our prayers.

 

[jolteon]

Look I know on treasurenet I am not the most loved member but I am very young to be honest with u I'm actually 13 typing on my phone! Look I can't even say how sorry I am for you u gave me confidence to go out today thank you for ur pm I will always remember that I can't even imagine losing my father or mother or the best brother anyone could have but all at once I am so sorry! In ur pm u talked about ur grandson like me having the metal detecting spirit and I promise to you that I will care that same spirit especially today and the rest of my life and whatever I find today I'll send u a pm before I tell anyone else! I know some people may not be Christian however may God bless you remember this Jesus Quote " God knows what u are asking before u ask."
Signed keep fighting Jolteon

 

[Limitool]

My heart is broken for you. I have not talked to my daughter in a long time, that is changing now. You are in our prayers.

Good for you.... That's the whole point of this thread. Use this thread as a reminder that things can change in an instant... Brad