Is this a hunting buddy doublecross????

[Whiterook]

Hypothetical situation

You get permission from the land owner to metal detect on private property. You invite a metal detecting buddy to join you. Is it right or wrong for the buddy to return to the sight at a later date without you (and without your knowledge) and hunt alone or with one of his buddies? Just wondering what you veterans think about this. Do you ask your buddy at the start to not return to the property without you? What's right/wrong here?

 

[USMC Reaper]

Serious breach of trust and confidence, I would drop this "Buddy" like a bad habit and let all other MDers I know why.

 

[DashHopes]

That's just wrong!

 

[Dagger Woods]

Hypothetical situation

You get permission from the land owner to metal detect on private property. You invite a metal detecting buddy to join you. Is it right or wrong for the buddy to return to the sight at a later date without you (and without your knowledge) and hunt alone or with one of his buddies? Just wondering what you veterans think about this. Do you ask your buddy at the start to not return to the property without you? What's right/wrong here?

Well, if advice from a rank beginner is worth anything.... I'd say it would be WRONG for your "buddy" to do that. As others have already said, that would be a betrayal of trust, a selfish and thoughtless act, and at the very least downright rude. That being said, sometimes good people do bad things and if the friendship is worth saving you'd probably better discuss it (calmly!) with him to see what his reasons were for acting in such a disrespectful manner. It may have been a simple misunderstanding... sometimes excitement leads to tunnel vision which leads to brain cramps.... IYKWIM.

For future hunts, make sure you make your conditions clear to your hunting buddies BEFORE you go, about what you expect from them after you show them to your hunting spots. If they're really your friends, they'll understand.

 

[michellegloster0]

I had that happen .brought the guy to look at the spot and he said he was gonna go w/o me the next day .I said you can't go to my spot w/o me WTF. He said OK. I drove by next day and his car was there. He lied about going too. I know he's done it again too.. I always bring him to my good spots and he's never come up with a spot to go. He's boasted about spots he was hunting and what he has found. In fortunately I have no one elese to go with. What gets me is when we have a whole yard and he's up my ass. Dont be so greedy.i prob will get burnt again but keep my spots I can go alone to myself.

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[Terry Soloman]

I say we tar and feather these bombastic excuses for simple life forms, burn them, and then we kill 'em!

 

[G.I.B.]

If you have a friend that would do that to you, you need better friends.

 

[TheRingFinder]

I would punch him in the face once really hard, then forgive him - cause I'm a nice caring person!

 

[Captain Caveman]

That is a violation of trust. I wouldn't even give the guy a second chance because he either knew it was wrong and didn't care, or his morals are so low, he didn't know it was wrong. Either way, not someone I would trust and trust is everything!

 

[basque-man]

Not sure about this one. I guess I only have two (2) buddies that we go out with. I don't mind it as long as they are the ones finding the stuff. The permissions I have gotten I will introduce my friend as well so he can come back. He normally would be solo when he gets out when we work opposite ends of the week. Now, if I did find a location that was had never been touched and we were finding some great stuff; I think I would hit it with my kid as much as possible then bring him out..........It does get tough bringing a friend to a new location and they end up finding most of the better stuff out of luck and the spots they find or pick aren't worth a dam!

 

[Keppy]

Does someone need a hug?

No not here some have to have ones with them to hunt .. I have friends that i go out with eat with and do the normal things others do ...... But i do not want any one with me when i hunt ... You should try it you will find more .. No one to bother you talk to you no one to distract you .. You are alone with your thought's to me that makes it peaceful , enjoyable ...And after all these years i still look forward to my hunt's... ALONE...

 

[Escape]

No not here some have to have ones with them to hunt .. I have friends that i go out with eat with and do the normal things others do ...... But i do not want any one with me when i hunt ... You should try it you will find more .. No one to bother you talk to you no one to distract you .. You are alone with your thought's to me that makes it peaceful , enjoyable ...And after all these years i still look forward to my hunt's... ALONE...

Im with you on that 100 percent. I would only consider having a hunting buddy if she was real cute.

 

[Captain Caveman]

Hunting buddies are great, especially when both of you are doing research and finding new sites. Then you get twice the sites for the same amount of research. Plus, it gives you someone to talk to about your hobby. I try to talk to my wife about it and she tries to act interested. But, we both know better. A hunting buddy has to be someone you trust though and you have to have mutual adult respect for each other.

 

[HenryWaltonJonesJr]

I'm trying to think of excuses WHY someone would do that.

-You weren't available and we really wanted to go
-I wanted to bring so and so who you don't like
-You're too slow
-It happened last minute so I thought it wouldn't be a big deal

Any excuse I can think of makes him sound like a jerk....so I think he's just a jerk.

 

[Detector Wars]

Question to OP, did your hunting buddy get permission from the farmer when he went?

 

[bigfoot1]

steal his detector then offer to rent him one "just like it"...

 

[DeepseekerADS]

Question to OP, did your hunting buddy get permission from the farmer when he went?

And, a more important question....

Did YOU get the farmer's permission to bring a buddy? If not, you're violating the farmer's trust yourself.

 

[stefen]

It's a tough lesson to learn about life, friendships and human frailties...

Time to close that door and move on.

 

[Whiterook]

It's a hypothetical situation. I posted this to find out if there was honor among detectorists and as I read your replies there is. From the majority of your posts it would be wrong to go back without the person who invited you. My problem is that I have gotten permission to detect many places out here (old schools, camps, parks, rodeo arenas, old home places, etc...) on private land and I would like to find a good buddy to hunt with. One that I can trust. With me alone it would take a year to thoroughly hunt them. A good problem to have.

 

[Detector Wars]

And, a more important question....

Did YOU get the farmer's permission to bring a buddy? If not, you're violating the farmer's trust yourself.

Yes. At the end of the day, it's neither yours or your buddy's property. What if the buddy got permission from the farmer after the first hunt and came back? You don't get to make that decision, it's between your buddy and the farmer.

 

[Dagger Woods]

It's a hypothetical situation. I posted this to find out if there was honor among detectorists and as I read your replies there is. From the majority of your posts it would be wrong to go back without the person who invited you. My problem is that I have gotten permission to detect many places out here (old schools, camps, parks, rodeo arenas, old home places, etc...) on private land and I would like to find a good buddy to hunt with. One that I can trust. With me alone it would take a year to thoroughly hunt them. A good problem to have.

Well, I sure wish I was your neighbor.... I've been trying to find a detecting buddy around here since last fall, with zero success (so far).