Things That Bug Me ~ Not a Rant

[mastereagle22]

Kids in stores calling me by my 1st name when they dont know me.

And people comming in where I work calling me hey sweetheart or I'll be back babe and darlin can you hold this for me! then I'll give ya a quater for this.

Oops MG I ALWAYS try and call the person I am interacting with by their name on their badge. Is that a bad thing

 

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[Mental Granny]

I dont wear a badge I am talking bout kids that the ones who can read seeing name on ck or debit card or hear someone else use my 1st name.
At work I am only known as the nice lady who gives you stuff, or the %$#@& who wont let you have things , or the dummy who we steal from.

 

[Mental Granny]

I dont wear a name badge I am talking about the kids the ones who can read using my 1st name when its on a ck. or debit card.

 

[diggemall]

I hate any store that instructs it's staff to call me by my first name after seeing my debit card or check.

Wally-World has taken to doing this, and it irritates me to no end. I want to say " I'm sorry, have we met before ? ", but I usually keep my mouth shut (it tends to get me in trouble whenever I open it. )

Diggem'

 

[boogeyman]

Being called Sir really irritates me. It's mostly used as a term not with any kind of respect. Even though I feel all are my equals until proven otherwise, which usually doesn't take long.

The other is being called Sweetie. I always ask them loud enough for others tohear if we slept together last night. I always get the deer in the headlights look followed by a NO! Then I reply well, I guess you're not my swetie.

And third when dealing with the low lifes I have to deal with on a daily basis, calling me Bro or brother. My reply? "Call me bro one more time & I'll be an only child faster than you can spit Usually humbles em up a bit.

 

[Mental Granny]

Boogyman love your reply for bro thats funny! When I worked at Walmart I used Mr. X or Ms. Z and I did pretty good at not mangling some names.

I use Sir once in a while in a mean sense when I've been pushed but I use it the right way too. Say you pay for something leave it on my counter and I go chasing you out the door I dont know your name so I do yell sirrrrrrrrrrrr or maam just to get someone to stop. Then smile real big and bite my tounge on some people!

 

[Pepper2004]

Unless you want your lights knocked out you had better NOT call me a NAG!! I don't mind being called a b*tch. Anyone can be a NAG...being a b*tch Southern style is an art!

 

[ClonedSIM]

Personally, I could care less what someone chooses to call me, as long as it's not flat-out rude. Unless I walked up to them and carefully instructed them on what names I would answer to, then how are they to know what I condsider acceptable? There's a local diner run by a wonderful old woman who refers to everyone as honey or sweetie. I consider it a term of affection, and if I didn't hear that when I walked in the door, I would actualy feel a little left out.

There is one exception, and that's to a group of 9-12 year-old boys that run around my neighborhood. For the longest time if they wanted to get my attention the would yell out "Hey dude!", "Hey you!" or simply "Hey, hey, hey!" from half-a-block away. Of course I didn't dignify this with a response, and continued to ignore them for another 30 seconds or so. The I saw something roll past me, bent down and picked up a crab apple. I turned around and saw the kids waving. Once of thm said, "Hey, I didn't think you could hear us so we threw that at you."

After whipping it back and hitting one of them square on the a$$, they learned my name real quick.

 

[mastereagle22]

Watch out, assult and battery, endagering a child and child abuse right there.

 

[ClonedSIM]

Watch out, assult and battery, endagering a child and child abuse right there.

With all I have on these kids that their parents don't know about, I wasn't even worried about. These little buggers I've caught smoking and drinking in the alley behind my house (never anything too awful, one of Dad's cigarettes and Mom's half-empty beer,) they've tossed trash into my backyard that I've made them come in and pick up, they've pulled a couple of pickets off my fence pulling themselves up on it that I made them replace. They're just rambunctious boys being boys.

Not concerned about them running to their parents in the least.

 

[boogeyman]

Strips of carpet tack strip along the top of the fence keeps kids & other unwabted critters like cats in heat from climbing the fence Except for one older than dirt smart possum

 

[ClonedSIM]

Strips of carpet tack strip along the top of the fence keeps kids & other unwabted critters like cats in heat from climbing the fence Except for one older than dirt smart possum

Hmmmmm, not a bad idea at all!

 

[Mental Granny]

When the terms of endearment are used that way thats different, I am meaning the ones when they come in that use it like they are my best friend and want evrybody to know it and the ones who are going to try to get somethin over on me. I have some older customers if they did not say things like that I would wonder whats going on too.

 

[vibes]

Wow, a lot of energy is given to what you DON'T want to be addressed as. Huh.

I don't care...it makes no never mind to me if someone wants to blurt out, "hey sexy lady"...I, well, kinda dig it.
Yeah, call me crazy...

dang.

 

[Montana Jim]

Wow, a lot of energy is given to what you DON'T want to be addressed as. Huh.

I don't care...it makes no never mind to me if someone wants to blurt out, "hey sexy lady"...I, well, kinda dig it.
Yeah, call me crazy...

dang.

I'm confussed... do you wanna be called "sexy lady" or "crazy"?

 

[vibes]

Oh I'm no Mona...more like a screamer...

 

[LadyDigger]

Well, first off...I am GUILTY as charged! Yes sir-ree,,,,,I am!

All my working life, I have been in the public eye, dealing with folks from all walks of life, from cashering in '73 at E.J. Korvettes to serving in the US Navy and back to working in the retail business. I love working in retail...I LOVE PEOPLE!!! They are the most amazing and yet at times, most fustrating bunch!!! Can't tell you how many times I've had to bite my tongue to maintain my professionalism on the job!!! LOL...one couple was really tee'd off cause the girl behind the desk was going to slow and the woman started yelling at the girl. I went up and asked if there was a problem and she went off on me. I explained to the lady that the girl was being trained. She went off and said, "Hell of a time for training. You are all a bunch of (deleted words)". She and her man walked out spewing profanity (YES PROFANITY) and I just said, "Thank you Ma'am and God Bless You"...but that is NOT what I was thinking! She was mad cause the girl that was in training was having a hard time with the lotto machine. I was not the one doing the training, another person was. This was her first day of training! Working the customer service desk is not CLASSROOM TRAINING...it's what we call in the military OJT: On the Job Training. But for every nasty customer like her...we have 10 wonderful ones that follow

I have always used the terms: HONEY, SWEETIE, KIDDO, KIDS, SIR, MA'AM, MR., MRS., MS (from the Women's Movement Era), HANDSOME and probably a slew of others. I LOVE using TERMS OF ENDEARMENT to ALL PEOPLE....

However, for the first time in my working life, I actually had a couple come in and I checked them out. I said, "And how are you kids tonight?" (it was around 10 at night)...They immediately told me that offended them and they even said (from my lips to GOD's ears), that is was like calling them the "N" word! I said, "Excuse me? But how does calling you a "KID" like calling you the "N" word?" (He said the word, I used the initial). He said it was offensive. I said, "Well, I apologize if I offended you, but it was NOT intended to be taken in that form." Of course his lady friend had to make some snotty comments that were not called for, but I ignored them. Responding to negative comments does not solve anything, only creates more hositilty...so anyways...he made a comment about being older than me and he deserves respect. Well, I was done checking him out and I said to him, "You older than me? I don't believe so." He said he was 43 yrs old and I said, "Well, I want to THANK YOU for that wonderful compliment! But I am a 52 yr young woman!" And this only happened within the last 6 months!!!

I have another young couple that comes in....they are in their early 70's. Whenever they come in, they ALWAYS look for me. I have always called them KIDS and it tickles them so much! Her health lately has not been good ..but they are the sweetest couple ever. I love watching them walk around, he is ALWAYS holding her hand! That is such a sweet TERM OF ENDEARMENT! But when I stop to speak with them, I say my YES SIRs and NO MA'AMs, etc. They are still my elders!

And I will ALWAYS say SIR and/or MA'AM ... and ALWAYS address the women first before the man (if a couple). I even call my BOSS who is nearly 20 years younger than I am MA'AM...not cause I think she's OLD (LOL)...she's my boss. It's out of respect as my father drilled in me from day one. He did not care if a person was older than me by a minute, I was to call them SIR or MA'AM!!! We were NEVER allowed to call adults by their first name. Exceptions were when my parents called someone by their first name and they were friends of our parents we addressed them as "Aunt" and "Uncle" and then their first name ... but if MOM and DAD called them MR or MRS...so did we!!!

We have regular customers that come in, who have been coming to this particular store for over 30 years, some are my neighbors and they know me as well!!

And folks calling each other HONEY, SWEETIE, SWEETHEART, etc has been going on for a very long time, as I remember these same words being used when I was younger! Didn't matter if I was in my birthplace of North Carolina or my parents birthplace of NYC...it's just something I grew up with....

I will NOT change who I am. I am a very open and friendly person and I treat ALL that I cross paths with ... with the utmost respect. I will go out of my way to make sure that our customer finds what they are looking for and if we don't have it, I will recommend one of our competors that I know has that particular item (not suppose to...but I do! I get that from MIRACLE ON 34TH STREET...if you remember the movie, what Macy's did when they did not have an item, they had a catalog that listed other stores that would have it! THAT IS GREAT CUSTOMER SERVICE!)

So, if we ever meet and I call you SWEETIE (which is my favorite)...and you don't like it...then tell me. I won't over step my boundaries with you....and I am bad with saying YOU GUYS!!! And to top it off, I had a 19 year old Cashier that worked for me say that calling her a KID was offensive. I told her (from my lips to GOD's ears): "When you address me as MS ANN or Ma'am, then I will stop calling you a kid!" She never did, nor did I!!! All's fair in love and war! She does not work for us anymore, she was very vulgar at the register when talking to the customers and they complained! Not vulgar to the customers, it was the stories she told and the words she used! THAT was very unprofessional!

And one more thing....don't have your young child call me ANN... I prefer MS ANN.... children still need to learn about respecting their elders. They still need to learn to say SIR and MA'AM just like they need to learn to say THANK YOU and YOU WELCOME! But I have never said to the parent, "I don't like you not referring me as Ann to your child"...but to the child I will say, "Hello (child's name), I'm Ms Ann." That is my polite way of letting that parent know....ahem!!!

So...if you're in the area, stop in say HI...I'm at Farm Fresh #218 in Virginia Beach. I'm only there on Tues, Wed, and Thurs and a few hours on Sat...all morning. You will find me replacing the tags on the shelves! Need help finding something...come see me Kiddo and I'll help!!! Until then...Annmarie

PS: we are trained to address the customer by their name that is imprinted on the credit/debit card or check...not first name, but Mr. or Mrs. So and So... I can't speak for other stores, but I know the training our store gives out and it does not instruct you to use first names!

 

[billjustbill]

A roofing salesman of a Nationally Known Company comes in and says: "You've got to sign this today or the prices go up to $240 a square." It a shingle brand I didn't want, too...
I call around to find that shingle prices aren't to go up until the next week, and I call the guy's company to verify the price....talked to 3 people before I got a straight answer. The salesman LIED....
Salesman calls me that afternoon mad as a wet hen to have called his company to check his contract numbers. He told me I wasn't the type of customer that company wanted...I wanted a free roof...and he was calling the Dallas office, his bosses, and the insurance company to tell them that the contract was canceled...

I asked for his boss's name and number(one below the company president)...spent 30 minutes recovering the issue on a Friday afternoon.... I've still got them locked into a contract with some revisions, but the salesman is still working for the company.... The real thing that bugs me is that most roofing company's are not on the up & up, don't do both asphalt shingle and metal R-panel roofs, have an binding arbitration clause, or that allows for credit card charges which for me amounts to $44,000 in reward points.... so I'm living with the enemy unless someone has a better offer.

 

[stefen]

When you catch a pushy sales person whose only goal in life is to lie and cheat to obtain a contract, drop him and his company like a hot potato.

This is a leason learned from my business life. I could give you numerous stories, but the end results will always be the same.

I have on many occasions cancelled a contract when I have been pushed into a corner to perform (sign) or contract clauses have been crossout in favor of the sales person (or company) only.

 

[FL Junkman]

One of my peeves is being called "Buddy" by strangers. I have two ways of handling these situations. Sometimes when called this, my reply is, Gee, how did you know my name This always sets them back. This is the gentler method of handling this situation.

The other is when referred to as "Buddy", my reply is, My name is not buddy and I am certainly not your friend!!!!!! Gets'em every time. Sometimes I think this may be too harsh, but a lot of people just don't seem to have any respect for thir fellowman anymore.

FL Junkman