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Wow, I feel the need to 'come clean' because I feel the next step for some of you is to start posting personal info. that you learned about me on the Internet, so I will 'come clean.' I wish you all didn't make this personal.
I have a lot of difficulty making it through some days. Yes, I have a lot of issues - how much time have you got? I am definitely a high-maintenance person. I am a recovering alcoholic and drug addict. I was kicked out of the University of Missour after earning a near-perfect GPA. I was kicked out because basically I did the same ironic thing there as I am doing on this forum - trying to do something perfectly (trying to learn all I can before my short 4-day metal detecting trip to FL so that I don't try to reinvent the wheel and can profit from those who have gone before me and are willing to share so I don't make as many stupid mistakes as I will make). I know I consistently ask questions that are answerable elsewhere.
But you could make that argument for just about every question asked on this forum. I mean, there are probably thousands of sources of info. outside of this forum that can advise you of the merits and pitfalls of certain water scoops. It's possible one could find some reason to dislike just about every post on this forum. Of course there is an answer to every question asked on this forum that can be found elsewhere. But when you read a book, does the book say back to you, "C'mon man, don't you know the answer to that question; go out and pay your dues and stop trying to take a shortcut - you're starting to piss me off. What are you, crazy?" Also, this forum is very convenient; I am not going to chide anyone for walking to work instead of taking the easy way out and driving their vehicle.
I won't apologize for asking simple questions, except to myself, because it looks like I put myself in a position to receive a bit of nasty feedback from those who probably, like me, have their own set of personal issues, whether they are aware of them or not. I am working on my perfectionism and analysis by paralysis with those in my life who care about me. So please, if you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say it at all. I don't need a therapist or a sponsor - I already have these people in my life
. There is a difference between saying something to someone that you know will be difficult for them to hear, and saying something to someone that you know will be difficult for them to hear but you care enough for them to say it and are intensely interested in not hurting them and you are not making the comment to be funny or clever or for other prideful reasons. . Also, please remember personal e-mail rather than public posting is an option on this forum.
When I post a question, I am not simply trying to get a response. I am opening up a discussion, and from that interchange can learn other things I didn't not expect to learn from the initial simple question. Also, if you keep an open-mind, you too can probably learn something, even if you have had this hobby for 50 years. This is one of the advantages of a forum. For example, I learned from "Treasure Hunter" that it's not so much the water that's the problem as the many inches of sand. Honestly, that wasn't clear to me until I posted the post about the possibility of dredging the water out of an area that is underwater prior to detecting that area. Additionally, 40% of the replies to my posts either answer my question or at least provide me some kind of emotional support because I can tell the individual's motive is to be kind and helpful. This is something a book or website cannot provide, but unfortunately one is also open to receving the opposite of emotional support.
I am reading 3-4 books on water detecting. I have visitied the Golden Oldie's site a couple of times. I plan to print off the material and read it on the plane ride down to FL on Friday. I want to thank all that have taken the time to respond to my posts with posts that are absent of sarcasm, denigration, insults, etc. (Please read the rules of this forum - all of these forms of communication are prohibited.).
So, there you have it, I am a man with a whole lot of personal issues - yes, you're right. Screwed up? Definitely!!!!!! But I am working on it and, though I don't think it's anybody's business on this forum, I am making progress at my shortcomings and personal failures. Please keep the focus on metal detecting and off my character. Again, if you find my posts asinine or frustrating or idiotic, then please just move on to another post which doesn't annoy you. And then tomorrow when you forget, as we all do, what I've said in this post, please re-read it. Anyway, I'm sure you all have more productive things to do than to take pot-shots at an easy target like me.
I have a lot of difficulty making it through some days. Yes, I have a lot of issues - how much time have you got? I am definitely a high-maintenance person. I am a recovering alcoholic and drug addict. I was kicked out of the University of Missour after earning a near-perfect GPA. I was kicked out because basically I did the same ironic thing there as I am doing on this forum - trying to do something perfectly (trying to learn all I can before my short 4-day metal detecting trip to FL so that I don't try to reinvent the wheel and can profit from those who have gone before me and are willing to share so I don't make as many stupid mistakes as I will make). I know I consistently ask questions that are answerable elsewhere.
But you could make that argument for just about every question asked on this forum. I mean, there are probably thousands of sources of info. outside of this forum that can advise you of the merits and pitfalls of certain water scoops. It's possible one could find some reason to dislike just about every post on this forum. Of course there is an answer to every question asked on this forum that can be found elsewhere. But when you read a book, does the book say back to you, "C'mon man, don't you know the answer to that question; go out and pay your dues and stop trying to take a shortcut - you're starting to piss me off. What are you, crazy?" Also, this forum is very convenient; I am not going to chide anyone for walking to work instead of taking the easy way out and driving their vehicle.
I won't apologize for asking simple questions, except to myself, because it looks like I put myself in a position to receive a bit of nasty feedback from those who probably, like me, have their own set of personal issues, whether they are aware of them or not. I am working on my perfectionism and analysis by paralysis with those in my life who care about me. So please, if you don't have anything nice to say, then don't say it at all. I don't need a therapist or a sponsor - I already have these people in my life

When I post a question, I am not simply trying to get a response. I am opening up a discussion, and from that interchange can learn other things I didn't not expect to learn from the initial simple question. Also, if you keep an open-mind, you too can probably learn something, even if you have had this hobby for 50 years. This is one of the advantages of a forum. For example, I learned from "Treasure Hunter" that it's not so much the water that's the problem as the many inches of sand. Honestly, that wasn't clear to me until I posted the post about the possibility of dredging the water out of an area that is underwater prior to detecting that area. Additionally, 40% of the replies to my posts either answer my question or at least provide me some kind of emotional support because I can tell the individual's motive is to be kind and helpful. This is something a book or website cannot provide, but unfortunately one is also open to receving the opposite of emotional support.
I am reading 3-4 books on water detecting. I have visitied the Golden Oldie's site a couple of times. I plan to print off the material and read it on the plane ride down to FL on Friday. I want to thank all that have taken the time to respond to my posts with posts that are absent of sarcasm, denigration, insults, etc. (Please read the rules of this forum - all of these forms of communication are prohibited.).
So, there you have it, I am a man with a whole lot of personal issues - yes, you're right. Screwed up? Definitely!!!!!! But I am working on it and, though I don't think it's anybody's business on this forum, I am making progress at my shortcomings and personal failures. Please keep the focus on metal detecting and off my character. Again, if you find my posts asinine or frustrating or idiotic, then please just move on to another post which doesn't annoy you. And then tomorrow when you forget, as we all do, what I've said in this post, please re-read it. Anyway, I'm sure you all have more productive things to do than to take pot-shots at an easy target like me.
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