My sincerest condolences, Ed, and heartfelt prayers for peace and acceptance for you and your family and Joe's friends.
There are times in life when it seems like one's whole world has been swept into the maelstrom and shattered into a million pieces. The only thing we can do is focus on what is still left and start putting the pieces back together, one by one.
If there is anything that I can do, please do not hesitate to let me know.