any of you ever get a good whippin? whats your take on whacking?

[21stTNCav]

Re: any of you ever get a good whippin'? whats your take on wacking?

Never that I'm aware of.

Violence teaches Violence

Never would beat a kid Either

Sorry that I cannot agree Jeff. I was rarely whipped and I deserved more.
Passiveism begets passiveism.
I will agree that no one should ever spank a child while angry but never spanking I feel is worse. Whipping your child should be extremely hard to do, something that your have to force yourself to do, but a good parent does what is necessary. Now some children never to be spanked, but saying that you would never spank your child, no mater what, brings forth the spectre that a situation could easily come by where you would would not do what is necessary. Just my opinion of course.

 

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[TheHarleyMan2]

Re: any of you ever get a good whippin'? whats your take on whacking?

You can bet when we got our a$$ tore up mom let us know what we did wrong and how she didn't raise us that way!

I think that parents who "Spare the rod, spoil the child" does just that! They teach their kids not to respect and then a good majority of kids get into trouble or have no goals in life and end up free loading off of mom and dad!

 

[mastereagle22]

Re: any of you ever get a good whippin'? whats your take on whacking?

I can remember the exact number of times my father spanked me. He never did it out of anger and always because I deserved it.

Today I can look at a LOT of kids that hang around my kids and you can see the kids who get discipline at home and those that don't.

I do not think a spanking is going to ruin a person or turn them into a serial killer. I do think that a lack of discipline is ruining this country.

I don't think that there is anything wrong with a whipping or spanking if what the child did deserves that level or response. But I do not support abuse or hitting a child in anger.

 

[PChammer]

Re: any of you ever get a good whippin'? whats your take on whacking?

I can remember the exact number of times my father spanked me. He never did it out of anger and always because I deserved it.

Today I can look at a LOT of kids that hang around my kids and you can see the kids who get discipline at home and those that don't.

I do not think a spanking is going to ruin a person or turn them into a serial killer. I do think that a lack of discipline is ruining this country.

I don't think that there is anything wrong with a whipping or spanking if what the child did deserves that level or response. But I do not support abuse or hitting a child in anger.

 

[RGINN]

Re: any of you ever get a good whippin'? whats your take on whacking?

I got the belt, or whatever they could get ahold of. Probably deserved them all. Never whipped my kids other than a spat on the butt except for one time. When my daughter was about 5 she wandered off and we couldn't find her for about 2 hours. She was with her friend. When we did, the ex-wife busted her butt. She looked right at her and said 'That didn't hurt.' So I stepped in. 20 years later she talked about that and said it did hurt when I whipped her. I suppose I whipped her hard cause she was too independent and exactly too much like me, but we were really beside ourselves for not being able to find her. I still kinda regret that. (Yeah we were good parents, but this was the day they figured out how to open the gate.)

 

[truckinbutch]

Re: any of you ever get a good whippin'? whats your take on whacking?

I grew up in a rural community that was exactly that ; a community . The parents were all friends
and were in agreement on child rearing . Any one in the community had 'carte blanche' to 'strap the
legs' of any and all of us caught misbehaving . For serious collective offenses all the fathers got us
together for what they called a 'Royal A$$ Whipin' that they all took part in , regardless of who's kid they got hold of . Worked well , at the time .
I don't smile much to this day 'cause every time someone saw me smiling they started strappin'
me ...... I was that ornery a little baxard that they still didn't get me for half of what I pulled .
I made it a point to spend more time parenting my own 4 . Never gave one a swat on the butt in anger . Reassured them every day that I loved them . Taught them how to enjoy life without antisocial behavior .
3 master's degrees and a certified commercial electrician later I got 6 grandchildren and 4 kids that
never finish a conversation with me without "I love you".

 

[RGINN]

Re: any of you ever get a good whippin'? whats your take on whacking?

And corporal punishment in public schools. I got two licks when I was a senior. Of all the things I did, and believe me they were very interesting, I got them for chewing gum in class. I got careless and it was the only thing they could nail me on.

 

[mastereagle22]

Re: any of you ever get a good whippin'? whats your take on whacking?

Yep when I was in school if you got out of line, the paddle came out. There were always two teachers who watched so that nothing abusive took place. I can tell you, very seldom did any kid get out of hand, and NEVER did a student talk back to a teacher or cuss them.

 

[bigwater]

Re: any of you ever get a good whippin'? whats your take on whacking?

My dad looked for an excuse to beat the living --deleted-- out of me every chance he got. Not only me, but my brother and my mom as well.

When I was sixteen, he pulled a gun on me because I had the audacity to disagree with something he had to say. I took off running. I counted One, Two, Three, Four, Five, Six as the shots wizzed over my head. Once it reached six, and me knowing it was only a six shooter, I turned around and ran back at him as fast as I could before he could get it reloaded. I jumped on him and beat the living --deleted-- out of him. Pounded him to a bloody pulp. That was the last time I ever had anything to do with my sperm donor. That was 30 years ago.

I made a concious decision in my late teens to never have children of my own because I recognized too many of my father's antisocial traits in myself, and I vowed to never put a child through what I went through. My brother did the same. We individualy decided to let the bloodline die rather than prolong the madness.

 

[bigscoop]

Re: any of you ever get a good whippin'? whats your take on whacking?

I think a lot of it has to do with how much routine "quality" time you spend with your children, learning about them and teching them what you can along the way. Adult lives can become far too busy and children grow up so fast and face a lot influences. I think, whippings or not, a great deal of the outcome depends on the quality time spent. Sometimes you just have to put your life on hold in order to raise kids. No two kids are the same, and they each need the same level of one on one as they are growing. Very hard to do sometimes, but also very important.

 

[traderoftreasures]

Re: any of you ever get a good whippin'? whats your take on whacking?

my brother and his wife was babysitting this short bus rider once when the little demon bit one of his daughters on the arm like a rabid dog and would NOT let go.
so his wife (in order to remove the demon) smacked the little boy hard in the face. well the smack left little finger print bruise on the little boy's face and deep teeth
marks in the daughter. well my brother didn't want his wife to get in trouble so he told the police that he had smacked the child. my brother then got arrested. he had been in minimal trouble in the past so he told the police that his wife done it they changed his statement to the truth telling the police the truth.... but the police told his wife that if she took the blame she would lose their two daughters....
SO she changed her statement again to say my brother had done it ( and was charged with perjury and got thirty days).
my brother was offered 6 years in prison. he refused because he was Innocent, and said he would take it to jury trial. he had a court appointed attorney who told him to take it to jury and they would find his wife guilty so he did.
BUT he lost jury trial, they didn't even try to find his wife guilty, found him guilty, HE GOT RAILROADED FOLKS...they give him
12 years
can you believe 12 years he had to do 6 his daughters think he's a beast because of his x wife totally screwed justice in America folks taxes at work 12 years

 

[dirtyJohn]

Re: any of you ever get a good whippin'? whats your take on whacking?

My younger brother and I used to get the belt quite a bit when we were younger and usually at the same time. Yes, we deserved it. The speech before the belt was the worse part. My father had a knack of making me feel guilty for making him have to take out the belt. He truly did not want to spank us but he loved us and did what he had to.
HH
John

 

[George (MN)]

Re: any of you ever get a good whippin'? whats your take on whacking?

I can't even remember if I was ever spanked, but I believe violence teaches violence. Where I lived, even in 50s & 60s I don't think schools allowed it. It was stand in corner wearing dunce hat or write on blackboard "I will not..." however many times. A high school teacher lowered grades for talking or chewing gum.

It seems this thread might be an attempt to determine if your kids can turn out OK without whipping? I can't provide % helped/harmed by whipping. I wonder if the statistics are on the internet somewhere?

What if the kid who doesn't act right has a brain defect, perhaps something from birth? How can one tell if a kid has that condition?

I'd guess whipping might cause kids to fear their parents. Who can predict if that will make them a better or worse adult? Some fears are healthy, some are not. I think these days many parents instead of whipping send kid to Dr. Shrink for some Pharmajunk. Which is worse?

Also, "our" govt has ideas on this. How many would whip their kids if it resulted in them being taken away to foster homes until they turned 18?

It's a hot topic because of all these considerations. I don't claim to have all the answers. Thanks everyone for sharing your personal stories. Best wishes, George (MN)

 

[Real de Tayopa Tropical Tramp]

Re: any of you ever get a good whippin'? whats your take on whacking?

HI Tex LUV: the simple secret is to establish discipline from day one and there is no need for whipping. Most wait too long because they are afraid that their child will no longer love them..

When one has to resort to physical violence, and it IS necessary at times, one is close to losing parental control.

As for me, yep I got it. My father wanted me to learn to read and write before I hit first grade. I did ok until on repeating the alphabet, I always stumbled on "S". My father quickly broke that mental block by saying "S" stands for spanking. Fascinating how quickly I learned both the alphabet and to read - for which I could never repay him for the gift of learning reading.

That was the extent of my whipping.

Don Jose de La Mancha (Tropical Tramp)
"I exist to LIVE, not live to exist

 

[bigwater]

Re: any of you ever get a good whippin'? whats your take on whacking?

My dad was just mean because he could be. Didn't teach me much other than I wasn't going to be mean to some other kid. Hard to be mean to a kid if you don't have one.

 

[traderoftreasures]

Re: any of you ever get a good whippin'? whats your take on whacking?

I wish someone would spank my daughters boyfriend.