Rest in Peace my angel

GopherDaGold

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Dec 12, 2009
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St. Charles County, Missouri
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My wife, my friend, my detecting partner, my rock, Sharee passed away on August 20th after a horrific bout of metastatic brain cancer.
I will not heal from this anytime soon. So many mistakes were made with her 'treatment'. Her very first chemotherapy treatment on June 3rd was canceled because her oncologist thought she did not have insurance. By the time that mess was cleared up she had grown too weak to withstand any immunotherapy.
Also mistakes made by the insurance companies in trying to refuse her hospice treatment when it was known all along that she was fully covered. I still haven't been reimbursed for that out of pocket expense.
We were still newlyweds. She survived until one week past our second anniversary but one week shy of our lottery anniversary.
Her illness and slow death was painful for her to experience and traumatic for me to witness.
I don't want to live in this house anymore. I have never felt more isolated and alone.
To make it even worse, her dad in Florida died on the very day of my sweeties visitation and at the exact time her service began.

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pepperj

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My sincerest condolences of loosing your wife.
Life has been such a roller coaster over the past year or so for you two.
Life just doesn't seem fair sometimes.
 

Charlie P. (NY)

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Feb 3, 2006
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17,106
South Central Upstate NY in the foothills of the h
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I don't have words that would help, but I know what an injury you are suffering.

You never heal. Like a tree you just grow around the damage and go on.

All you can know is that you were lucky to have had, briefly, something that precious, that is now gone.
 

Tpmetal

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Jan 4, 2017
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Western ny
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Sorry to hear this gopher. though it sounds like from other posts it was an expected result, it doesn't make it any easier. Keep those memories alive.
 

smallfoot

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Flawda
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Prayers coming for your healing!
 

Mud Hut

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While I am not a man of faith, but knowing the pain and grief of losing a loved one, my heart aches for you Gopher. I hope you will find peace in keeping the good memories near and dear to your heart. My condolences to you, sir!
 

CoinFetcher

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Left coast
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I am so sorry. Hopefully you can heal
 

Lenrac2

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Illinois
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I cannot fathom your pain. I am so sick of insurance companies dictating healthcare. My condolences.
 

Truth

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No words can heal that kind of pain your feelings it the worst.[emoji1317]
My mother had something on her tongue that was looking bad I would tell her please go get it checked but she would make a excuse not wanting to miss work (I think she knew) so I took her myself and it was cancer. They took out all her teeth and cut out and rebuilt her tongue. Wr thought we had it beat but it came back. Me and my fianc? rented out our house and took care of her. She told me ?Dean the hard part about get old is losing you dignity.? We where now half way in weddings plans and my mom saying she won?t miss it well hospice called us one day and said she took a drastic turn for the worst and if we want to come say our last goodbyes we better do it now. My wife said we?re getting married now so we bought here a dress I bought suit and we were married that night in the hospice chapel. She passed the next day. I hope you find peace sooner than later it?s so rough the pain. My mother was my best friend and I was no angel in life I still held a lot of guilt. So she gave me the best gift I could ever get she said ? then whatever guilt you have on your plate you could take it off you made me so happy. My mother was at my wedding and she gifted me peace.
 

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Treasure_Hunter

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So sorry for your loss, it is a horrible disease. I have lost a cousin, a nephew and now have a close friend in last stage of metastatic brain cancer.
 

Steve in PA

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Jul 5, 2010
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Pittsburgh, PA
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That's terrible. So sorry for your loss and what you both had to go through.
 

Tahts-a-dats-ago

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Apr 30, 2014
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NJ
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Legend,
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Sorry for your loss.
 

ARC

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Tarpon Springs
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I am very sorry to hear... She is in a better place now and not in pain... and i know this is very hard... but take some time and heal as best you can.

Sincere condolences TreasureNet buddy.
 

Terry Soloman

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May 28, 2010
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Prayers offered. God Bless You. - Terry
 

old texan

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sir i ve looked at this site for a pretty long time great site great members i joined today to send you this message i think you have a strong connection to the spirit world even stronger now sharee is not lost we know where she is she helped you before and will help you even more now use your power to help others the future is bright if you re ever in the heart of texas holler and we ll have bbq and a cold one your friend old texan
 

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